I tried on an engagement ring.
Now before you start squeeing and jumping around, let me just clarify that it was not with Michael and it was at work.
Huh?
My coworker (and fellow blogger) Anna, has hopped on the Let’s Get Molly Engaged train. Yesterday she sat down in my office and asked me if I had showed Michael what kinds of rings I like (yes) and whether or not I’ve tried on all the rings of my married and engaged friends.
I had to think about it for a second but then realized, no, I hadn’t. Maybe one but I feel weird asking women to take off their rock so I can put it on my finger and daydream about being Mrs. Michael.
As soon as I said that, good old young Anna pulled her gorgeous three-stone engagement ring off and handed it to me.
It fit perfectly. (”Five and a half!” she said.) And I was shocked by the what the weight of a real ring feels like. The heaviness of diamonds and platinum translated instantly into the overwhelming desire to have that commitment on my finger forever.
I moved my hand back and forth, letting the diamonds catch the light as I pictured what it will be like to have my own. Then I gave it back, because just a few minutes longer and Anna would have been chasing me down the street as I manically ran away screaming, “I got one! I got one!”
Last night over the all-American meal of steak and potatoes (I mean really, I should have been wearing an apron and heels), I told Michael about the ring. How I loved the way it felt. How I wanted one of my own.
This time I couldn’t read his smile. Did it mean, “oh you silly girl, it’s right around the corner and you don’t even know it”?
I really, really hope so.
PS- While the cat’s away, the mouse will write on his blog. Check out my guest post over at I Got Nothin’
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September 20, 2007 at 10:42 am
onebigholiday
I liked your blog on mike’s site, it was very sweet.
September 20, 2007 at 10:59 am
Ashley
i love trying on engagement rings. i think it’s a sort of sickness. but i don’t care. they are so pretty. i will make you let me try on yours when you get it. which, i have no doubt, will be soon.
September 20, 2007 at 11:04 am
alissa
Oh, now I miss my ring! Our jeweler has had it for almost two weeks while he creates my band and I feel naked. Believe me, even a year later I still look at my hand and move it so the light catches it.
September 20, 2007 at 11:07 am
crystall
Do you think he might be offended? I mean it sounds like you were gunning for a ring, not for a marriage. I’m sure he already knows that.. though men don’t do well under pressure!
I’ve been given an engagement ring before. I gave it to my mother. I think she still wears it.
September 20, 2007 at 11:09 am
aernyc
I love trying on engagement rings, despite the fact that i’m…um…single. Shhh don’t tell me that.
Heaven help the guy that decides to marry me, hes in for a shock. I go straight for the largest rock in the room. I think I have a radar for ridiculously large diamonds. But on the other hand, they would look RIDICULOUS because i have the smallest hands. In the world.
I’m seriously sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for him to pop the question.
September 20, 2007 at 11:19 am
elizabethews
You can try on my engagment ring anytime! But I do hope that it will be crowded by your own when you do!
September 20, 2007 at 11:23 am
kwarterlifecrisis
Confession time: Last Christmas I was at the mall with my mom and we popped into a jewelry store just to look around and before I knew it, my mom and the sales lady had me trying on rings. I was too freaked out about it (and really not ready for engagement then) to try them on my left hand so I only tried them on my right hand. And after like three of them, I was like “We have to leave, Mom. NOW” Kind of like on SATC when Carrie put on the wedding dress and got hives. I think I’d have the opposite reaction to ring shopping now though because I’m ready for it whenever TB decides that that day should come. Although I will tell him no if he asks me before Michael asks you.
September 20, 2007 at 11:59 am
clinkny
Hell, I blogged all about how I tried on engagement rings (with a friend, and then with M). I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.
First of all, it’s fun and girlie just to see how it feels. Second, it’s great for you to get a feel for what you like/what looks good on your hand.
Also: SQUEE. And when is he going to propose? We need to plan our weddings together.
September 20, 2007 at 12:07 pm
L B
ok.
this is what we know.
1. you love Michael
2. you love rings ( i got to try on a 2 carat one in Tiffany’s for my best friend’s sister’s boyfriend (now husband) that was AMAZING!)
3. you have a song picked out to walk down the aisle (me too btw and i don’t even have a boyfriend!! haha)
4. you want to have like 10,000 of Michael’s babies
this is what we don’t know.
1.WHEN IS THIS WHOLE PROPOSING THING GOING TO HAPPEN!!!!! ?????????
Oh the stress I have to deal with over here in PA…hurry up Michael, I can’t wait either. (maybe that pressure will help move things along—-hmmm maybe yes, maybe NO!)
September 20, 2007 at 12:11 pm
Courtney
How exciting! : )
September 20, 2007 at 12:12 pm
elysa
engagement rings are pretty fun, I got mine last December
September 20, 2007 at 12:39 pm
Miriam
Look at you, you’re so cute. And come on…you know he’s going to pop that question any day now. Fall is the perfect time of year to get engaged. It’s so romantic!
September 20, 2007 at 12:50 pm
bloggingbarbie
um, hi. confession wedding obsessed barbie has tried on rings. in a store. and my friend’s too. whatev. i love sparkly things.
um, and SQUEEEEEEEEE I WANT MICHAEL TO PROPOSE TO YOU RIGHT NOW.
Seriously. I hope to have another pretty sparkly thing to look at (and, OK, TRY ON IF YOU LET ME) when i visit you at the end of October.
xo, bb
September 20, 2007 at 12:53 pm
Anna
The SIZE was five and a half, by the way, readers, not the stones.
I tried on EVERYONE’S ring more than once in those pre-engagement days, I loved seeing how different rings looked on me. And loved flashing those diamonds around. When I first got it I practically drove off the road I was so distracted by watching the diamonds twinkle in the sun. Now I almost drive off the road because of what I’ve got in the back seat spreading cracker crumbs all over my car.
September 20, 2007 at 12:56 pm
Michelle
OK, now I want to try on rings! I’m feeling left out here people
P.S. It’ll happen soon Molly - I just know it!
September 20, 2007 at 1:09 pm
Sass
I believe that is exactly what the smile said…
September 20, 2007 at 1:16 pm
Stephanie
I can just feel it! It is so very close!!
September 20, 2007 at 1:30 pm
The Casual Perfectionist
Just imagine how you’ll feel when it’s *your* ring.
Oh, and I’ve been with my hubby for almost 11-years, and this year is our 7th wedding anniversary. I *still* love watching the sunlight dance across my ring. 
September 20, 2007 at 1:42 pm
puremotif
sigh… I love my engagement/wedding rings. Mine aren’t very large, but so meaningful and… they bring me joy every day.
You will have one when the time is right! I hope it is soon!!!!
(oh, and i think it is very flattering when people want to look at my rings… so if anyone is like me then don’t hesitate to bug them. :))
September 20, 2007 at 1:50 pm
DG
Oh wow Molly, that smile TOTALLY meant its happening soon! I am (HONESTLY) SOOOOO excited for you because he knows how much you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him and vice versa. By the way, does Michael read this blog? If so, he has A LOT of pressure on him!
September 20, 2007 at 1:54 pm
JC
I’m thinking the girl may want to buy the guy the engagement ring….and why not…..
Here Here for the girls buying the guys an engagement ring.
And, if that’s not something the ladies would like to do, I offer these websites for you:
http://moissanite.a1ae.com/moisenite-diamond.php
http://www.ziamond.com/?gclid=CLiL0qPN0o4CFTyKOAodWm4FBA
Take the bull by the horns….this isn’t 1983 anymore. This is 2007.
Maybe I’m not married because I havent been asked?
September 20, 2007 at 1:55 pm
JC
or….maybe not.
hahahhah!!!!!
September 20, 2007 at 2:54 pm
beingmccrary
When you wrote, “I’ve got one. I’ve got one!”, I about fell out of my chair laughing!
I tried on rings all the time. It’s normal! And fun!
What’s the song for the wedding? I want to know too!!!
September 20, 2007 at 3:10 pm
libby
his smile was DEFINITELY the good kind. and i’ve got this feeling about you and michael, just from reading and seeing pics. I will be squee-ing out loud for you the day it happens. I CAN’T WAIT!!!
September 20, 2007 at 3:20 pm
L B
oh. i meant to tell you this before—I CRACKED UP at the fact that you quoted Will Smith yesterday. I know you are over there getting Jiggy with it—my roommate heather and I started with your quoted line and could continue the rap with out the music—so sad, but awesome at the same time!
September 20, 2007 at 3:40 pm
Princess Pointful
It’s funny… there was burst of people who got married right out of high school, then a lull, and now it feels as though, it their mid-late 20s, the second wave is coming.
I think some of the boyfriends are afraid they may drown
September 20, 2007 at 3:48 pm
Lisa
I squeed!!! Hahaha. I’m so excited for you! I’m sure that was what the smile meant.
September 20, 2007 at 4:17 pm
elysa
you can get that badge here http://20somethings.ning.com/ its on bottom right of your profile page
September 20, 2007 at 4:56 pm
elise
How fun! I found you through our 20-somethings site and I have to say I am getting so many new reads today I don’t even know what to do with myself! I looove your site and will be a dedicated reader - hell, if I knew you, I’d loan you my ring for a test drive! I’m a 5.5, too!
September 20, 2007 at 6:37 pm
Chelle
Okay, I’ll wear the fancy “Your’e An Awesome Wife” annniversary ring tomorrow and we can play pretend. I know you Molls and it is not about the ring… It’s about the Michael. He’s the one. You love him. And I’m almost crying typing this message.
Damn it… Are you reading this comment Michael? Seriously, Anna and I will take you ring shopping… PLEASE GIVE THIS “TOTALLY AWESOME, NOT GOING TO FIND ANOTHER MOLLY” girl her ring or else! Or else we’ll all be totally heartbroken and sad.
September 20, 2007 at 8:28 pm
Darcie
You’ve tried on mine! =) Next time I see you, you’ll have to try the set.
Speaking of which - we really do need that lunch date. Maybe next Friday!?
September 20, 2007 at 9:47 pm
dailyeditor
That’s so exciting! What if it is just around the corner? Eeeeee!
September 21, 2007 at 2:48 am
Cecile Weekly
Teehee, I’m waiting for the ring myself. Female intuition tells me I’m getting one next summer. I heard that some people believe a ring should cost two month salaries, which I personally find absurd. I see an engagement ring as a beautiful symbol, but you only wear it for a year or so…
Anyhow: Matt recently received a massive pay raise at work. I teased him with the fact that my ring will be way more expensive now, and that he shouldn’t wait for his next pay raise. Hehehe.
September 21, 2007 at 7:05 am
Peter
You are open to the concept of occasionally writing for other blogs, eh?
Innnnnteresting.
September 21, 2007 at 9:06 am
Princess Taj
Ok, here is my opinion - I think you should stop asking, talking, and hinting towards anything wedding related. Here is why - he wants to surprise you - I mean REALLY surprise you. It’s one of the most important steps this man will take in his life. He wants it to be magical, and wonderful, and wants to make it everything you’ve ever dreamed of. But when you keep mentioning it, I think it chips away at the surprise, and makes him hold out even longer. Thing about it. What if he was going to propose tomorrow? Now he can’t because you just had the ring conversation today - it’ll make him feel like the only reason he’s proposing is because you keep mentioning it. You know it’s going to happen, so just put it to the back of your mind so you can really have the ultimate surprise ever!!!
By all means, keep trying on the rings and planning and dreaming, but don’t tell him - give him the benefit of thinking you never saw it coming
September 24, 2007 at 11:40 am
Jess
Hey, he smiled… that’s certainly better than a cornered-animal look. I didn’t even think to try on other people’s rings before I got engaged myself, but that was smart of you. I’m excited for updates!!