The Weekend: A Timeline

October 8, 2007 in emotional, engaged, stress, wedding planning, weekend

Friday

12:30 p.m. Meet Elle for lobster mac & cheese. It is delicious, but I’m still feeling stressed over venue/family/money stuff. I tell Elle about it as we eat.

1:15 p.m. Lunch is over and I’m feeling sick. Can’t tell if it’s the mac & cheese, the stress or a bug. Am annoyed.

2:25 p.m. Leave work early and head for the couch. Why am I feeling so sick? (And really, no. I’m not pregnant. Promise.)

7:15 p.m. Am feeling a little better. Val arrives and we head out to pick up dinner.

9:40 p.m. Am out cold on the couch. Apparently, I am old.

Saturday

10:30 a.m. Arrive in Newport for our first venue of the day. Fall in love. It’s THE place, we both think so.

11 a.m. Sit down to go over how much it would cost to host wedding at this venue.

11:30 a.m. Realize that this may be much more than we can afford, but hope for the best anyway.

1 p.m. See second venue of the day. It doesn’t compare to the first and the old mansion seems dark and musty.

3:30 p.m. Call mom to discuss finances. Am told what I already knew–we can’t afford that venue.

3:35 - 4:25 p.m. Meltdown. Feel overwhelmed and frustrated with planning. Feel disappointed and sad about venue.

4:30 - 6 p.m. Sit down with wonderful fiance and figure out how much we can swing. Come to conclusion that wherever we have our wedding it will be beautiful.

7 p.m. Still feeling stressed, but try to eat before going out for the night. Only manage a couple bites.

8:30 p.m. While getting ready to go out, Michael notices my back has broken out in hives. Excellent.

9 p.m. - 12:30 a.m. Meet up with friends and celebrate engagement with drinks and shots. Manage to forget about stress and have a good time.

Sunday

3 p.m. Look at another venue that I only booked an appointment with as an afterthought.

3:2o Fall in love with venue. Realize that it’s a beautiful, oceanfront venue that we can afford. Rejoice!

3:30 p.m. Pencil in date with wedding planner. Plan on finalizing date early this week.

Today

10:25 a.m. Feeling really, really happy. I’m getting married!

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October 8, 2007 at 10:50 am

crystall

You need a day at the spa girl, I can’t believe how stressed you are! Relax, everything will be fine, take one day at a time.

October 8, 2007 at 10:56 am

Tina Vaziri

Yay! How exciting! It’s so great that you found the perfect place that won’t eat up all of your money. Ocean front sounds fabulous. I can’t wait to see photos.

October 8, 2007 at 11:06 am

elizabethews

Is this THE venue? The greatest venue? The venue that I’m going to send you pictures of??

I’m super happy for you! Check one thing off the list!

October 8, 2007 at 11:07 am

clinkny

So excited! That’s the most important thing to cross off the list, so hurrah.

October 8, 2007 at 11:09 am

Michelle

awe so excited you found THE place Molly

now it’s time to de-stress. at least for the time being. i think the next part of your planning should be what cookies to make because really? how not stressful is that?!!

October 8, 2007 at 11:11 am

onebigholiday

yay, I’m so glad you found a great place!

October 8, 2007 at 11:13 am

Peter

Everything’s coming up Molly!

October 8, 2007 at 11:18 am

Miriam

It’s weird how everything falls into place when you don’t expect it to. I’m glad you were able to find a place that you love that’s in your price range.
And Clink is totally right. Once you have the venue everything else seems to fall into place b/c the venue is the most stressful item.

October 8, 2007 at 11:37 am

Ashley

Oh yay i’m so glad you found it!!! And we do need to send you to the spa, you need a good de-stress.

You seem to be flying through this wedding planning stuff. Fiance, check! Dress, check! Venue, check!

October 8, 2007 at 11:38 am

puremotif

I can really sympathize with stress affecting your stomach/health. I struggle with that all the time. On the night before my wedding i totally broke out in hives. but it was ok and they faded by the morning.

unless you think the lobster gave you hives. lol.

October 8, 2007 at 11:40 am

verybadcat

Hardest part? Done. Check. Finished. Wahoo! Reward yourself with a massage or a pedicure or something. Hives bad, pedicure good!

October 8, 2007 at 11:44 am

Lisa

Oceanfront! That sounds wonderful. About the stress part, that’s perfectly normal. I’ve felt like throwing up during wedding preps plenty of times. All it takes is an hour long deep tissue massage. And a mani-pedi with the girlfriends.

October 8, 2007 at 12:17 pm

Lisa

Hooray! A few months ago my sister was looking for venues- pretty stressful! What is the penciled date?

October 8, 2007 at 12:49 pm

...BeccaLynn

I second Lisa’s question. What’s the date? I am sooo glad you’re feeling better. And very proud of you that you stuck through the disappointment of the first ‘perfect’ venue, and found a better one! YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHH!

October 8, 2007 at 1:12 pm

kwarterlifecrisis

Yay for a great venue. Maybe it’s like Goldilocks and three bears or something. First venue was too small, second (and however many others you saw) was too pricey, third was juuuuuuust right. So glad you found it!

October 8, 2007 at 2:25 pm

pbandrazz

Hey - that’s great! Happy that it worked out for you!

And you are not old as I was barely able to move on Friday because I was so tired (for no reason whatsoever).

October 8, 2007 at 2:28 pm

Amber

An ocean front venue…. *sighs* It sounds like it’s all working out. Hives aside, obviously.

October 8, 2007 at 3:31 pm

libby

the place you settled on sounds gorgeous! so happy you found something you’re both happy with :)!!

October 8, 2007 at 3:45 pm

Jess

Yay! I’m so glad that you found a beautiful venue that you can afford! I was all worried that you were going to say you bankrupted yourselves for the first venue.

October 8, 2007 at 3:54 pm

sasharay

Awwww I am so glad you found a place. HUG!

October 8, 2007 at 4:56 pm

I’m sooooo happy you found a place! Don’t worry, the initial stress will probably subside. On the positive side, Carrie Bradshaw got hives when she was stressed so…uh yay!

October 8, 2007 at 5:01 pm

mcgee

congratulations on finding a venue that you love!!

October 8, 2007 at 5:11 pm

Yeeeey! I’m glad you found a venue. I hope you’re feeling better physically as well as mentally and emotionally :).

October 8, 2007 at 5:36 pm

Dani

you should be so proud of yourself that you have three major components (bridesmaids, dress, and venue) of your wedding picked out in under three weeks. you=bride extraordinare!

October 8, 2007 at 5:54 pm

your mom

well, it’s been how many days since the engagement?……and along with some plans being put in place with great speed, she’s had a couple of tearful meltdowns already.
luckily, molly usually has the capacity to get a grip on reality after some processing. she had some pretty astute insights into her disappointment and then happy recovery about the venue.

i have a feeling the key words to remember throughout this journey might be GET A GRIP……. or STAY CENTERED….
i figure there are going to be some strange and/or interesting twists on the horizon to come, but it all will work out in the end….. hopefully a year-long journey that will be filled with FUN planning, culminating in a joyous day….

October 8, 2007 at 6:33 pm

daily editor

Yay! You found the place—that’s awesome! It will be beautiful, Molly. You clearly put a lot of thought into everything, from what you write on your blog to your shoes and your friends and family. You care about the small stuff in a good way (not that friends or family is small stuff!). But really, I have no doubt that you’ll find all the perfect details to make this your dream wedding. Congratulations!

October 8, 2007 at 7:58 pm

anna

hooray, so excited for you I am commenting on DIAL UP, seriously, you know I must be thrilled for you if I am doing that!

Can’t wait to hear what it is and when!
A

P.S. Martha says hi

October 8, 2007 at 10:49 pm

mikesgotnothin

So this means a productive week in the office without me (and Anna), right?! But, for real, congrats!

October 9, 2007 at 12:58 am

Charlotte

Hehe, that’s wonderful! When do we get to know the date?

October 9, 2007 at 5:52 am

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October 9, 2007 at 7:12 am

Amanda

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October 9, 2007 at 9:06 am

Hi, um, want to come plan my wedding? Because it mostly makes me want to cry. But YAY FOR YOU! YAY!!!!!!!!

October 9, 2007 at 11:04 am

Michelle

Yesssssssssssss! Fantastic! Can’t wait to hear/see all about where it is.

And, by the way, thank you for publicly announcing that you have fallen asleep on a non “school night” at 9:40pm. Now I do not have to live in shame anymore and will no longer hide my old lady nights.

October 9, 2007 at 11:06 am

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