Over Thanksgiving my mom, aunt and sister accompanied me to the bridal salon to decide on a bridesmaid dress. I had narrowed it down to a few, with one in particular I really liked. My sister was a good sport and tried on a whole bunch. But in the end it was the dress I had originally picked. This one in red:
I loved the simplicity of it. The tiny belt, so Jackie O. I knew that all my girls would look stunning and it was so nice to have such a big task done. I enjoyed my Thanksgiving and headed back to Rhode Island with another check mark in the planning book.
And then yesterday I got a phone call. “Hi Molly, this is [the bridal salon].”
My heart stopped. My wedding dress! What was wrong with my wedding dress??
“The bridesmaid dress you ordered has been discontinued.”
I didn’t freak out. I didn’t yell at the woman for keeping a sample of a discontinued dress in her store. I think I was so relieved that nothing was wrong with MY dress that the reality of it didn’t hit me, not even when she was listing some more styles she thought I would like. (Um, I looked. I don’t like them. At all.)
It wasn’t until after I hung up that I got pissed. I complained to Anna in the next room. I called my friend and complained. I sent Clink an email using some choice words. And then I called my mom, who got pissed off for me, (Love it!) then brilliantly suggested that I call the store back and ask them to order a sample of the dress I originally wanted that they didn’t carry. Remember this one? You all liked it!
They said they would call the company right away and try to get a sample for when I’m back in New York at Christmas. Then they called back and said that they can get a sample, but not until February. (”What, do they have to grow the silk?” said Anna.)
So up side, there will be a dress in the store in my sister’s size in February. Down side, well, not till February. But up side, if I find the dress in Rhode Island and like it, they can order it for all the bridesmaids immediately.
Sigh.
I guess I was due for a wedding mishap, hmm? At least it happened 11 months out and not two!
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November 28, 2007 at 9:32 am
mainlyclearskies
I’m glad it was a fairly minor mishap. And fixable. The second dress is very pretty, but I do love the first one.
November 28, 2007 at 9:45 am
Stephanie
Oooh, why did you have to post a picture of the discontinued dress? I LOOOOVE IT! The other one is pretty too, but the teeny belt is adorable!
Glad it worked out, and like you said, 11 months out is much, much better than 2. Or 1. If this is your only minor mishap, you are a very lucky bride!
November 28, 2007 at 9:51 am
La
Ooh, I love it! It’s going to go really well with your dress, too. Bravo!
November 28, 2007 at 10:02 am
bluesunday
You’re right – better it happened now and not later. Still plenty of time to find the perfect dresses! The second dress is very pretty. Me likey!
November 28, 2007 at 10:27 am
brookem
I guess you’re right- at least it happened with a lot of time to spare! I really like that second dress though- both are SUCH pretty, classy choices.
And I didn’t realize you were (from?) RI! I was in RI on Friday night!
November 28, 2007 at 10:49 am
crystall
Love that you’re using red… I like the second dress better, it looks fab. Did you ever decide on the shoes? Can’t remember…
November 28, 2007 at 10:50 am
dreamgrrl
boooo to the bridal shop!! be thankful that it happened now instead and there are so many options out there, and the 2nd dress is beautiful too and i think will really work well! i was so scared of the dresses being discontinued that i had the girls order them saturday! dont stress, we have many months ahead to do that
November 28, 2007 at 10:51 am
michelle
well this one’s still gorgeous in my opinion. i hope everything goes smoothly! and even if come February you can’t get that one you’ll still have plenty of time to find something just as wonderful.
November 28, 2007 at 11:07 am
Jess
As far as mishaps go, it definitely could have been worse! And February is not so far away, especially with a whole wedding to plan. I love that our weddings are only a week apart. And yours is first! So I get to learn from you.
Also, I love that your mom got pissed off for you.
November 28, 2007 at 11:19 am
Clink
The stress, the stress! You don’t need it!
But you’re right – eleven months out is much better than two.
I love both dresses equally and I know your girls will look hot in the second one.
November 28, 2007 at 11:35 am
Anna
I agree, I really like both dresses, and maybe even the second one a teensy bit more. They are both gorgeous.
November 28, 2007 at 11:37 am
Elle
I LOVE the second dress. LOVE it almost as much as I LOVE you:)
November 28, 2007 at 11:54 am
DevilsHeaven
I think I would’ve cried. You and Clink totally put me to shame in the whole bridal planning situation. I finally went and tried on dresses a few weeks ago, it was so surreal!
Good luck getting the dress for your girls that you want! Red = Sassy!!!
November 28, 2007 at 11:58 am
kristen
that’s not too bad. at least you have the other dress. when i was planning my wedding, one of my bridesmaids just discovered she was pregnant so she waited until the absolute last minute to buy her dress in case she needed a BIG size (also, she lives across the country). well…i got a phone call from her about 1 month before our wedding — the dress EVERYONE else already had was discontinued and so she ended up buying a junior bridesmaid dress in an almost similar style in the same color. i always thought it was slightly ironic that my married, 6-month pregnant friend was wearing a JUNIOR bridesmaid dress in my wedding.
November 28, 2007 at 12:08 pm
Miriam D
I adore the second dress. A lot. Hope everything works out!
November 28, 2007 at 12:10 pm
mypieceofthepie
This post reignited my hatred for all things bridesmaid dress related. I seriously (and pathetically) almost broke out in hives after spending HOURS looking for dresses yesterday. I will be ok if I never hear the name Jim Hjelm ever ever again.
Why can’t I find simple, classic, beautiful elegance in anything other than taffeta for Christs sake.
Clink, share the wealth on where you found your dresses! We’re in different states–no one will ever know they are the same!
November 28, 2007 at 12:14 pm
Ashley
I also love the second dress, and the red.
And yes, 11 months out is WAY better than 2
If this were me, I’d be throwing everything together at the last possible second. You’re such a good planner.
November 28, 2007 at 12:32 pm
chasingparadise
Oh, what a bummer! It was a beautiful dress. But the upside? The upside is that the alternate is stunning too!
November 28, 2007 at 12:36 pm
cdp
I must agree that I also like the second one a lot. Seriously though, they should not keep discontinued samples out on the floor. Recipe for disaster. Rat bastards.
November 28, 2007 at 12:45 pm
kwarterlifecrisis
You know what, I think maybe I actually like the second one better anyway. Hang in there though. At least it wasn’t your dress!
November 28, 2007 at 12:52 pm
Alexandra
Ooo I always hated it when forces threw a wrench in my wedding planning – but it always worked out, ultimately. And though I really like the original dress, the second dress is beeeeautiful!
November 28, 2007 at 12:53 pm
Sassafras
Gah, what a bummer. Maybe you’ll like the second one better once you see it in person? Tracking down samples is such a PITA, good luck!
November 28, 2007 at 1:00 pm
Peter DeWolf
And they totally interrupted an entertaining conversation with the bad news.
(Second dress is hot.)
November 28, 2007 at 1:44 pm
mikesgotnothin
And we didn’t talk about this at lunch?!
November 28, 2007 at 1:44 pm
bloggingbarbie
ohh fun stuff.
p.s. i realllly love the second dress. love. jsut remember: things will work out to how the’yre suppoed to be
just breathe!
November 28, 2007 at 1:45 pm
bloggingbarbie
oh, and hi, i can’t type today. or spell. awesome.
xo, bb
November 28, 2007 at 1:56 pm
littlespoon
I like the 2nd dress better anyways.
And honey, not to burst a bubble but you’re going to have many more mishaps. Hopefully this will be the largest!
November 28, 2007 at 2:04 pm
The Lisa Show
The 2nd dress is gorgeous. Your bridesmaids are gonna love you even more for it.
November 28, 2007 at 2:12 pm
Lisa
I like the second dress better anyway! Hooray! And red=lovely.
November 28, 2007 at 2:42 pm
caitlynintherye
I think you should keep looking around too. You may find one that you like better than the two you’ve already found, and then it’d be worth it for her to have made such a mistake on the first. But the color? Fantastic. You have such a classic, beautiful taste with these things.
November 28, 2007 at 2:55 pm
Kari
I LOVE the first one. The second one is nice too but I think I would probably keep looking for something like the first one. I just love the little belt and it is so flattering. On the other hand, the criss cross rouching is really flattering to the stomach area…I don’t know. They both would look amazing!
November 28, 2007 at 2:55 pm
qu33nbee
Ugh. I am definitely glad for you, girl, that it DID happen 11 months out and not two, just like you said. And I’m also sooooo proud of you for not freaking out too much and seeing the upside. Even if it IS after you used a few choice words.
November 28, 2007 at 3:16 pm
Katie
They used to carry a dress just like the first one at David’s Bridal…not sure if they still carry it, but it’s worth a shot! My biggest problem with bridesmaid dress shopping was trying to find a dress that would look good on all of my girls, ranging in size from 2 to 24! Wedding planning is full of bumps, but the end result is so worth it
November 28, 2007 at 3:18 pm
Tina Vaziri
The second dress is really pretty!! But I love the first one with the belt, I want it in off white… RIGHT NOW! (I need to figure out something to wear for my company’s holiday party this Sat., I’m dreading looking in my closet and have been putting it off)
Your bridesmaids are going to look fantastic in whatever dress you end up going with!
November 28, 2007 at 3:31 pm
tia
it’s SO HARD to find cute bridesmaid dresses that a) don’t cost $10k b) look good on everyone c) are accessible.
i ended up having mine made and they were fab.
don’t worry, wedding mishaps will come along. i thought i was doing great until the homestretch…it happens. =)
just remember, the day after, none of it matters anymore.
(including the grooms cake decorated with a marlin that you just HAD TO HAVE to surprise your hubby that no one even knew about because the kitchen didn’t cut it or serve it and it spent it’s life on a banquette table behind the “real” cake. and it cost you $300.)
November 28, 2007 at 3:48 pm
Banana
I would definitely be pissed. Lame bridal store! But it is good that it’s still 11 months away – plenty of time. Also, I LOVE the second dress, it’s beautiful.
November 28, 2007 at 3:52 pm
DG
I love the second dress too! And my sister went with a deep red for her bridesmaids and it was GORGEOUS.
November 28, 2007 at 5:23 pm
katelin
I’m glad it was a small mishap and nothing too major. I do really like that second dress though, so fun!
November 28, 2007 at 5:24 pm
sandra
I absolutely love the second dress — gorgeous. And as a…god, a six-time bridesmaid, I consider myself somewhat of a bridesmaid’s dress expert!
November 28, 2007 at 7:35 pm
daily editor
The second dress is beautiful, too. That color will look so good in the pictures. Nicely done!
November 29, 2007 at 4:00 am
eyesaswindows
ooo loove your blog header!!! Where’d ya find that? Anyhoo, I think the second dress is a better choice! wrap dresses are sooo good on everyone! Don’t worry planning will get better!
November 29, 2007 at 10:46 am
Marriage-101
Hi I’m new here. Just wanted to say I LOVE that second dress. Both are beautiful, but the second one is my favorite. Is that the color you’re going with?
November 30, 2007 at 5:03 pm
srah
I think the second dress will be more rewearable than the first, so that’s always a bridesmaid plus!
December 2, 2007 at 11:12 pm
hearthealth
There’s no doubt about the second dress I spose, but in case you need kewl wedding toasts, pls click here or there. And P.S. I think you’ll make such a multi talented mum!
December 19, 2007 at 12:17 pm
Vivevtvivas
The second dress is MUCH better looking then the first one! Don’t sweat it!