Things I’m Considering

February 12, 2008 in the future Mrs. Michael, wedding planning

Save-the-Date magnets.

Candles for the pews.

Hair like Marcia’s. (The curl, not the color.)

Damask invitations. (In red.)

Candle centerpieces.

Discuss…

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February 12, 2008 at 11:26 am

Sara

Save-the-date Magnets: I think they’re the way to go. You’d be surprised, but people really do keep them up after the wedding, which is fun to see.

Candles for the pews: Holy beatiful.

Hair like Marcia’s: You could pull it off, and I hate you for that (kidding).

Candle centerpieces: Elegant.

I miss planning a wedding

February 12, 2008 at 11:27 am

caitlynintherye

I love them allllllll. The wedding invitations look exactly like the type I’d pick out- They’re modern, but stil classy. And the candles at the end of the pews and as centerpieces? They’re gorgeous.
I have a friend who’s getting married in Rhode Island (she went to the same college as you too) and she’s using old boating lanterns around the venue as a decoration.

February 12, 2008 at 11:30 am

Kari

I think it’s all gorgeous!

And while I like the hair and think it would look great on you, I would be cautious of doing anything different before the wedding. Even a bad dye job can be stressful.

February 12, 2008 at 11:30 am

Jess

I love! I would expect nothing less than hair like that from you. I’m going to have my hair loose too, I think, only mine will be much shorter.

And we are definitely going to incorporate candles into our centerpieces. I never thought of using them as pew decorations too, but that’s a great idea! And the invitations are gorgeous (and I bet especially so in red).

The only thing I’m not sold on is magnets for save-the-dates. I know they’re all the rage right now and they do make sense. It just feels slightly presumptuous to me, to assume that your guests will all want your save-the-date on their fridge. Not saying that you are being presumptuous–I seriously considered them, too. But couldn’t quite bring myself to do it. Also, they’re probably more expensive to mail? Just a thought.

February 12, 2008 at 11:31 am

Dutchess of Kickball

Candle on the pews would make me nervous that one would get knocked over or something and the whole place would go up in flames. But I might just be overly worried about fire.

The invitations, love love love. The hair, love love love. The save the date magnets, might be just an extra expense you don’t really need, but it is a super cute idea. And did I mention I love the hair and initiations?

February 12, 2008 at 11:33 am

Anna

Yes! on the save the date magnets. Love them.

Candles on the pews–legal in RI? Just wondering, you know. Might be a little stressful. Lanterns instead?

Links to hair and invites, please?

February 12, 2008 at 11:33 am

Stephanie

Candles for the pews would be absolutely lovely, as long as nobody knocked one off or accidentally got their dress too close to the flame. Centerpieces with candles would also be lovely.

February 12, 2008 at 11:33 am

pseudostoops

We did candle centerpieces and it was beautiful AND more cost effective. I totally support the use of many many candles at weddings. The magnets are super cute, too, but with the caveat that not all fridges these days actually take magnets- our stainless-finish fridge is mysteriously non-magnetic- so it wouldn’t work for everyone.

February 12, 2008 at 11:36 am

I love the Save the Dates. And also, the hair, which you pretty much have already, and it is fantastic.

February 12, 2008 at 11:37 am

Michelle and the City

save the date magnets are awesome! i STILL have my friend’s magnet from her wedding 2 years ago hanging on my fridge.

also … invitations… designer friends…? i work cheaply

February 12, 2008 at 11:40 am

Sara

You can do save-the-date magnets cheaply, too. If you know someone that can create a pdf design for you, you can upload it to vistaprint.com and get them printed there. The maget is really thin, which I didn’t like, so I bought magnets the size of business cards (which was the size of my save-the-date) and put the printed magnet on the sticky side of the business card magnet, if that makes sense.

No extra postage to send them, either, and I just included a card with it that had hotel and travel information.

February 12, 2008 at 11:42 am

verybadcat

save the date: love

candles for the pews: uh. not so much. my BFF R had grapevine balls with white twinkle lights in them for aisle markers. same effect, no fire. check it.

hair: love

invites: not loving, but no good reason for the not loving.

candle centerpieces: did it! at my wedding (nearly eight years ago!), we had tapers with globes and then we put rings of roses and ivy around the bottom. got lotsa compliments.

February 12, 2008 at 11:43 am

Darci

Love all the candles, especially the mini-lanterns on the pews. And the hair is fantastic…you can definitely pull that off!

February 12, 2008 at 11:45 am

poodlegoose

I love the candles on the pews too! That’s a great idea… maybe I should think about it myself…

And the save the date magnets are a lovely idea.

February 12, 2008 at 11:48 am

erin

really like the magnets.

really love the inviations.

really love all the candles too (on the pews and on the tables).

and knowing how gorgeous your hair can be - i say definitely!

February 12, 2008 at 11:51 am

Each

Rhode Island is neither a road nor an island.

Discuss.

February 12, 2008 at 11:52 am

Love all the ideas! and I like the hair down thing. you have gorgeous hair! I’d leave it down and curly like that.

February 12, 2008 at 11:58 am

Damsel in Digress

i can take commands well. and when it’s the lovely miss molly doling them out? well, of course. discussing will now commence:

i love the candle centerpieces, candles down the pews and the damask invitations. i think candles provide just the right - well, for lack of a better word? - ambience for pretty much everything; depending on the situation, it can add romance or seriousness or fun or depth or a touch more meaning. and most importantly, they’re beautiful. (then again, i’m the girl who used candles at my roommates and my luau bash last January and thought it looked awesome so maybe i like candles a bit too much.) for the church ceremony, i think it’d give it a wonderful ’softened’ feel. and the candle centerpieces at the reception are just gorgeous. i think you mentioned an october wedding? the candle centerpiece also seems very seasonal.

i love the invitations - they’re striking/eye-catching; have a feeling of whimsy / old world romance; and look original. or at least, not standard or typical. (i really am starting to think i need to stop talking so much because what do i know about wedding planning other than having watched the wedding planner starting matthew mcconaughey and j-lo more times than i’d like to admit?).

the magnets are such a cute idea but like pseudostoops mentioned, some fridges may not be magnet friendly - stainless finish fridges do appear to be non-magnetic (mine is too, anyway). but this may be a neglible detail? since there are other surfaces that are magnetable.

the hair is beautiful - and i think most of us readers know how amazing you look with the wavy/curled hairstyle =) a lot of it would probably depend on the dress, right? and someone refuses to show the dress so … i can only say that my opinion is a not entirely informed one. (i kid, i kid - i understand and support completely your decision for not posting the dress here!)

February 12, 2008 at 11:59 am

bing

I love the idea of candle centerpieces! I am planning on doing the same thing. My reception venue is already filled with candles, so I think that candle centerpieces will look awesome. Plus it seems pointless to spend so much money on flowers for ONE day…crazy!

Love the hair and the invites too. I wanted to do save the date magnets, but I couldn’t find any that I really loved. The ones you found are so cute!

What will all of us newly engaged chicas do once we are married and have nothing to plan?!? Haha.

February 12, 2008 at 11:59 am

Laurie

Candles as centerpieces are fantastic! It gives the romantic vibe and provides a necessary source of lighting. There is so much you can do with them - and it is easy on the budget!

Love the magnets. People use them and they are very personable

February 12, 2008 at 11:59 am

Damsel in Digress

(did i really need to leave an essay? i think my morning’s cup of coffee = my lengthy comment on your post. which means that i’m drained of all energy to do actual work at the office. which means that i should just accept my fate and read blogs all day long. yes, that’s what all this means.)

February 12, 2008 at 12:01 pm

crystall

I love candles, as if you have not seen my room already.

Pews, centerpieces, all of it.

Also love the invitations in red.

PS Your hair better than marcia’s.

February 12, 2008 at 12:02 pm

The Lisa Show

Love them all except for the candles on the pews. If people are bringing kids over, it could be dangerous. Especially to your dress. The candles as centerpieces would be fantastic though. We had them at our wedding - floating candles and petals.

February 12, 2008 at 12:03 pm

Sassafras

Love it all!

I based my invitations off of the same designer (I think) you have there - I love all their stuff!

As for the magnets - no one is forcing your guests to put them on their fridges. We saw our STD postcard on fridges everywhere we went - so I think it’s a great idea if you want to put the time/money into it.

February 12, 2008 at 12:06 pm

pie

love the magnets. We did them and since I am such a raging narcissist I love the idea that my face is gracing fridges all over the country!

The hair? Fierce. The candles? Economical and pretty! The invites? Chic and modern.

Love it all.

February 12, 2008 at 12:09 pm

Froggy

Save the Date Magnets = Excellent! I still have several on my fridge from weddings that took place well over a year ago. My favourite is one that has a photo of the bride and groom being silly together.

Candles on Pews = pretty, but I share everyone’s worry of things catching on fire. Your dress, for example…

Candle Centerpieces, on the other hand = beautiful!

And I love the invitations. Very classy!

February 12, 2008 at 12:15 pm

Pessimistic Redhead

Love the magnets and the candle pews. Also, your invite idea looks similar to Daily Ed’s save the dates, which are perfectly lovely.

February 12, 2008 at 12:25 pm

Clink

I love it all, especially the hair and the candles as centerpieces. Having seen the venue, I think the candles are just going to make it that much more magical.

February 12, 2008 at 12:29 pm

heatherdc

I LOVE the candles on the pews, it looks so cozy and elegant!

February 12, 2008 at 12:36 pm

Peter DeWolf

I don’t want to hurt Shawn’s feelings, but I think that Alice is giving me the eye.

February 12, 2008 at 12:37 pm

littlespoon

I love the candles. Both the aisle candles and the centerpieces. Just stunning.

February 12, 2008 at 12:38 pm

We did save-the-date magnets, and everyone seemed to love them and I still see them on friend’s fridges! I wasn’t sure, but now I highly recommend them.
Everything else is beautiful too - candles seem to always bring things to life! Enjoy the planning too (which it sounds like you are) - it all goes so fast that day!

February 12, 2008 at 12:40 pm

DevilsHeaven

I considered the magnet thing too, but nixed it for cost reasons.
Candles on the pews, would be way cool, but I’d be concerned about burns, fire and the church might have issue with it as well, despite their use of candles on the alters. Maybe in the windows instead?
Candle center pieces, would be fab! If you can find inexpensive holders and what not, those might drive up the price. Do we notice my theme of concern here? Cost…………
And invites, very nice. I’m gald you said red cause the orange is kinda fug……
As for the hair, me likey.

February 12, 2008 at 12:41 pm

dreamgrrl

love the save the date, and the candles and the hair!! i was just day-dreaming about being about to wear my hair half up/half down…. but i just dont think its going to be possible! you are going to be so beautiful!!

February 12, 2008 at 12:57 pm

Nic

Okay, the former wedding person in me needs to caution against the lanterns. They look beautiful, but there are a couple of issues. First, they get awesomely hot and will burn people who go near them. They will also singe anything nearby, like flowers, and I’m assuming the paint on the pews. This seems to ring true for all metal lanterns. They also get so hot that they melt the candle 10 times faster than usual. If you were to do this, I would recommend burning several candles in them before you use them because when you first light a candle up in a metal lantern they can sometimes smoke and smell really, really bad.

I had a handful of weddings use lanterns for a variety of things and I have to caution you against it unless you use the battery operated votives. Everything else I love!

February 12, 2008 at 12:58 pm

legallyheidi

Save the date magnets are awesome - friends of mine getting married did that…so cute!

the candles are stunning

and love the hair

February 12, 2008 at 1:01 pm

J P

You have supremely fantastic taste! I love it all, especially the pew lights. Will you have the lights in the church dimmed? That would be magical.

February 12, 2008 at 1:16 pm

Princess Extraordinaire

You can’t go wrong with any of those wonderful choices! I am so excited for you It is going to be an amazing year!

February 12, 2008 at 1:18 pm

cdp

Dude. I am LURVING those candles for the pews. Have not seen such before, and they’re gorgeous. Stunning, for reals. Mama likey.

Also, your hair is far superior to Marcia’s.

That is all.

February 12, 2008 at 1:19 pm

Angela

What beautiful ideas you have!

We actually opted against save the dates… invitations, thank yous, and programs got so expensive, it just seemed like the thing to cut out since almost everybody knew about the wedding through word of mouth anyway. But if you do use them, I think magnets are a really great way to go.

And I love, love, love those invitations and am a huge fan of candle decor Oh my GOSH, I miss wedding planning!!

February 12, 2008 at 1:20 pm

Anne

Not feeling the invitations. I got like 3 invitations of that style for weddings last year and…they sort of looked cheap. I was not a fan.

Everything else looks great!

February 12, 2008 at 1:28 pm

puremotif

i’m not a fan of save the date magnets because i think they are a bit of a waste of money. I love the invitations - although anne is right in that the style is extermely popular and everywhere right now. but if you love it, that is what is most important.

everything else i love.

February 12, 2008 at 1:42 pm

Lisa

Magnets are cool as an idea, just because their so convenient… but for a wedding? Style >> efficiency.

Candles on the aisle=pretty
That hair=deluxe
Candle centrepieces= really standard, yet pretty
Damask= full approval

February 12, 2008 at 2:07 pm

Jessica Lynn

1. where did you find those save the dates?! love.
2. i think that the candle centerpieces can look a-mazing, especially if you do as many as their are in that pict.

February 12, 2008 at 2:23 pm

no one

LOVE the invitations.

February 12, 2008 at 3:01 pm

JenBun

1. I love the Save the Date magnets– I have all the ones I receive on my fridge, and I love to look at them when I’m getting something to drink. Also? A good reminder to put down the ice cream, since everyone who looks at them will remember that they have to fit into pretty dresses soon! But I would totally use your and Michael’s names instead of Shawn and Alice! =)

2. The pew candles are really pretty, and I’ve never seen them before, but I would be SO worried about having my dress brush against them while walking up the aisle, and turning into the Human Torch on my wedding day. Aaaah!

3. Hair = gorgeous! And it’s similar to how you wear your hair normally, just a little more dressed up, so you’ll feel comfortable and glamorous, all at the same time!

4. Those invites are fab! ‘Nuff said.

5. I LOVE love love the candle centerpieces. And, unlike the ones for the pews, I would be less worried about fires.

YAY! It’s all going to be gorgeous!!!

February 12, 2008 at 3:23 pm

Banana

I love the candles for the pews! It will illuminate you in a pretty glow as you make your walk down the aisle - very nice touch.

Candle centerpieces are a great inexpensive way to dress up a reception hall - esspecially in the fall when it gets darker earlier. You can mix in your colors (with pillar candles in your colors, or tealights in your colors, or a mix of both) and add touches like the petals shown in the picture, or colorfull flat glass “vase gems” (http://www.save-on-crafts.com/glassvasegems1.html) or place mirrors underneath the candles for extra sparkle and glow.

Your wedding is going to be beautiful! Can’t wait to see pictures.

February 12, 2008 at 4:20 pm

qu33nbee

The candles are cute, but I haven’t seen your venue place, so I don’t know how they would look. The hair? I guess I’d have to see it on you before I could decide.
I love the centerpieces, and I love the magnets and invitations.
LOVE LOVE LOVE.

February 12, 2008 at 4:33 pm

lisachelle

i love the save the date magnets. everyone will be looking at your photo forever. everything you picked out so far is elegant, calming. what a great feel for your big day! i think the candles on the pews are a great touch as are the centerpieces.

February 12, 2008 at 4:42 pm

Kateastrophe

I’m still pretty sure we are twins separated at birth (and by a few years)

I love all of it. LOVE IT.

February 12, 2008 at 5:00 pm

christine

save the date magnet - love it.

candles on the pews - i wouldn’t do it. i was recently at a wedding where someone knocked over a pew-candle with their purse strap, shattering the glass and sending water everywhere (triple whammy - candles, glass, water). the wedding was 15 minutes late while people cleaned up the mess (it was in the middle of the aisle, so it was rather important to clean right away - and very obvious to the waiting crowd.)

invite - lovely, sophisticated.

hair - not sure b/c i haven’t seen the dress. but it is a pretty ‘do!

February 12, 2008 at 5:11 pm

mikesgotnothin

Um, yeah. What to add? What to add? I don’t get the entire save the date notion, so i have no feeling on that. love the candles/lanterns (good point, anna). ditto the centerpiece and marcia’s got nothin’ on you.

February 12, 2008 at 5:17 pm

Mel

Totally have to do the candlelight at the church and the centerpieces. Have it all go together.

February 12, 2008 at 5:19 pm

stacey

I LOVE EVERYTHING. IMMENSELY. LOVE, LOVE LOVE. You have amazing taste!

February 12, 2008 at 5:21 pm

mcgee

love. love. LOVE them all. especially the invitations…they’re beautiful!!

February 12, 2008 at 5:23 pm

skinny

i love the candle centerpieces, if you go with yellow, will you also consider adding something silver (like little beads) or a silverish table cloth?

i also love the candles on the pews….. before everybody mentioned about the danger. but i really think it would look great in pictures, colored or black/white.

hair down is the way to go, it also suits well with your personality and your age (i’m guessing). your pics will always look hip for years to come.

neutral about the invitation. but have to say i’m not a big fan of save-the-date-magnet. maybe i’m old school. i just think it’s too “me-me-me”. i know it’s a once in a life time event and one should do whatever he/she wants and share the excitement, but when it comes to anything to do with “others”, i tend to be more subtle and cautious. ….. hope you don’t mind me being honest

February 12, 2008 at 5:31 pm

Marriage-101

Beautiful! All of it!

February 12, 2008 at 6:04 pm

Jamie

Love them all. Save the Date magnets are great! I have also received some “Wish you were here” postcards that were save the dates, beautiful as well.
The hair is absolutely perfect. My momma always says that you should look like you on your wedding day, only better.
Love the invitations, agree with weveryone else on those. Very modern but elegant at the same time.
And I love the candles the best. I really think they will bring a warm glow.

February 12, 2008 at 6:16 pm

Emily

Save the Date Magnets: Yes! I use ‘em when I get ‘em….they’re on the fridge next to my calendar.

Candles for pew: I share the fire hazard concern, plus I don’t know if you’ll be having small children at your wedding, but my nephew would love to get his hands on those…

The Hair: Down is the way to go if you’re getting married inside… I had an outdoor ceremony in FL & the wind was outrageous, I had no choice but wear it up!!

Invitations: Approved. A little fresh & funky, but sophisticated.

Centerpieces: Love ‘em! Classic & beautiful.

February 12, 2008 at 6:59 pm

rachellutterman

I never even thought of the magnets. That is a really great idea. I also like the invitations. Red will be really pretty. TO be honest, I think the candles in the pews are a really romantic touch. But can I suggest something? Have you looked into these type of candles? Here is a link :

http://www.sharperimage.com/us/en/catalog/product/sku__NI520MED

They are a little pricety but you place them all over your home after you use them for your wedding. Just a thought. It will still give that romantic flare without a fear of fire. Plus, if you look around some more you can probably find a better deal than this one. I have even seen some that are scented… Just a thought. Best of luck!

February 12, 2008 at 7:03 pm

katelin

So many people I know have done the magnets and I really like it. Granted I wouldn’t get it with a full on picture, maybe smaller picture of you guys perhaps. And I love the candle on the pew idea and the invites, so cute.

Basically I think everything you’re considering is great.

February 12, 2008 at 8:05 pm

your mom

no no no no candles on the pews. fire! fire! fire!

i am not thrilled with the invite options so far.

but you know all that. just getting my two cents in.

February 12, 2008 at 8:49 pm

Miss Cee

I’ve never received any save-the-date things (I think it’s more a US thing than an Australian thing), so I’m eh on the magnets.

I love the candles on the pews - gorgeous! Especially in those cute little containers - tell your Mum it totally removes the fire risk The candle centerpieces are beautiful as well. The more candles, the better. So romantic and pretty.

The invitation is cool, very sophisticated, and I love the hair, especially if you have a strapless dress.

February 12, 2008 at 9:08 pm

Princess Taj

Love. It. All!!!

February 12, 2008 at 9:22 pm

Dawn

To add to the gushing that is already on here:
Lovely! Especially the candles. I adore candlelight. Also, I had never heard of magnet save-the-dates before, but that is actually a really good idea. It will be on the fridge in front of their eyes until (and most likely long after) your wedding. Most people would put the invitation on the fridge by magnet anyway. This saves a step Gorgeous for the invite and gorgeous for the hair. Also, “Discuss…”: excellent directive. It made me laugh. I don’t know if there’s as much discussion going on here as just plain gushing

February 12, 2008 at 10:09 pm

renae68

You have excellent taste - no surprise there. And I’m sure that, no matter how you wear your hair, it will be beautiful.

A bit of advice I received before my wedding, when I was thinking about how to wear my hair: Think timeless, not trendy.

Think of all those brides from the 1980’s who looked stunning on their wedding days. But now, as they view their pictures, they hang their heads in shame.

Love the candles for the pews! If there are windows, think about candles there, too.

http://www.renaebrumbaugh.com

February 12, 2008 at 10:26 pm

toothfairyb

must say, the molly curl is better.

Love it all though! (especially the invitations!)

February 12, 2008 at 11:29 pm

libby

candles on pews is beautiful! also, i love the color of the petals and the candle centerpieces…so fall-esque!

February 12, 2008 at 11:58 pm

L B

Magnets: yes, we still have one from last summer on our fridge!
Candles for pews: beautiful and classy and elegant
Candles as centerpieces: I am a big fan, different heights look so “fetch” b/c I know you want your wedding to be fetch…hmmm haha but you know what i mean!
And I also really like the invitation…geez molly do something WRONG!

February 13, 2008 at 1:25 am

Charl

Candles! Candles!

So wooomannticcc.

February 13, 2008 at 1:29 am

Charl

Oh and…the other stuff is perfect, too. It just that candles make me over-excited.

As for hair, I’ll second renae68. Go with timeless, elegant, simple. You know what to do!

February 13, 2008 at 1:30 am

*kb*

you can not buy the little tea light “fake” candles. They look the same, but no fires, so you could put them inside the little lanterns and no one would have to worry about calling the local fire department. There’s a little push button to turn them on and off AND for the most part, I don’t think anyone would even notice!

February 13, 2008 at 1:14 pm

Katie

Love the idea of candle centerpieces…it will save you tons of money on your floral bill!

February 13, 2008 at 4:24 pm

kristin

i. love. EVERYTHING. the magnets, the candles, the hair, the invites, and the centerpieces!! HONEST. magnets make so much sense. like coozies do down south! and i love the candles in the aisle. it’s what i want in my church. and the hair, for you, would be just absolutely perfect! and the rest.. all fantastic!!

February 13, 2008 at 11:16 pm

Chelle