It took an emotional evening full of tears, a fitful night’s sleep, a long day in the office and one hour in the gym to come to a conclusion:
I’m not quitting the blog. (”I want to quit the gym!” Friends? Anyone? That episode was on last night.)
Wednesday night was not a good night. Concerns from both Michael and my family regarding privacy on my blog came to a head and I didn’t want to deal with it. I felt that by changing the way I talk about things I would be compromising my blog, my writing. I sat on the couch trying to hold the tears in, my bottom lip quivering and my nose threatening to run at any moment, holding the new InSyle Weddings in front of me. I tried to focus on the page but the words began to swim.
I almost deleted the blog. The whole thing. Gone.
But Michael asked me not to — said I would regret it in the end. He was right. Of course he was right. I mean, here I am, one day after I told you I was taking the weekend off, writing a post. I can’t stay away. This blog is more than just a blog, it’s a lifeline.
Yesterday only reaffirmed what I already knew. Thank you to everyone who emailed, commented and sent Gchats. Thank you to the more than 11,000 visitors who stopped by yesterday and to the delurkers who popped up to say please stay.
I’ve made a few changes in my archives. Nothing major, nothing that effects my writing or my “story”. Just enough to put worried minds at ease. It’s a crazy world we’re living in and while I’m not the least bit worried about the readers I know and love, I have to listen to my future husband when he voices his concerns about our safety and the people that find me by Googling not-so-nice things.
I’m promise to stick around for you as long as you stick around for me.
Deal?




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March 7, 2008 at 10:36 am
Kat @ The Burb Blog
Oh man, I was gone for 4 days and it seems I missed something BIG! I don’t always comment but I’ve been trying to comment more on blogs I read so I’m commenting.
I use a nickname on my blog and try very hard not to reveal exactly where I live. However, I’ve revealed it several times on my weekly podcast/radio show and so far, no harm has come. So, I do understand privacy concerns. Mine were mostly for the sake of the jobs that I held. I think I would have lost my job for my radio show and perhaps for my blog. I definatly would lose friends if my peeps know about my blog.
Hang in there. It is a unknown world. And Google is a little bit too amazing.
March 7, 2008 at 10:40 am
Rose
Deal. Welcome back Molly!! We love you….
March 7, 2008 at 10:41 am
Kate
I am so glad you decided to keep writing. You have quite a gift and I love reading your blog every morning as I get settled at work. Thanks for “putting it out there” for all of us to enjoy.
PS - Thanks for all of the wedding tips, too! I am planning my big day this June and I’ve gotten several great ideas from you and “The Winning Pitch.”
March 7, 2008 at 10:47 am
Jessica Lynn
YAY! You just made my day!
March 7, 2008 at 11:00 am
Are You Willing to Change
Glad you came back…I have only just started reading, but I didn’t want you to leave!
March 7, 2008 at 11:01 am
kelly
I am a first time commenter, long time reader. I am glad you decided to come back..as everyone else said, I would have missed your writing!
March 7, 2008 at 11:08 am
Ashley
just remember to out the chocolate if you need to.
xoxoxoxox
March 7, 2008 at 11:12 am
littlespoon
This blogging thing really is a lifeline. I’m glad you’ve chosen life
March 7, 2008 at 11:15 am
La
I heart you, and I’m glad you decided to stay, and also? One of these days, you and I are going to have a Friends Trivia-off, for reals. Have a great weekend!
xoxoxoxo
March 7, 2008 at 11:17 am
poodlegoose
I’m glad you’ve chosen to stay! Your blog is the one that got me into all of this, after all
Without you to read everyday, I don’t know what I’d do. Hope you have a fab weekend!
March 7, 2008 at 11:17 am
Michelle and the City
totally a deal. SO glad you’re sticking around
xoxoxo
March 7, 2008 at 11:22 am
dreamgrrl
YAY, you know i’ll be here
best choice ever!
March 7, 2008 at 11:23 am
bing
Glad you’re here to stay! I’ve only been reading you for a few months, but I LOVE your blog. I would have been sad if decided to end it!
Hope you have an extraordinary weekend!
March 7, 2008 at 11:26 am
julybug
Hooray!
March 7, 2008 at 11:28 am
HLM
So glad to hear that you are staying. Life is all about compromises without losing yourself, right?
March 7, 2008 at 11:30 am
kristin
thank you for staying. and thank you for helping me realize that i’m not crazy for having my own concerns. and not crazy for having to keep my addiction alive.
March 7, 2008 at 11:37 am
The Casual Perfectionist
You’ll find the right balance (and write balance?). Have a great weekend! I enjoy your site, so I’m glad you’ll be sticking around.
March 7, 2008 at 11:37 am
hckelley
Yay! so glad to have your blog to read again!
March 7, 2008 at 11:38 am
lfar
Deal, Molly. 11,000! You’re famous!
Also, privacy schmivacy. I give a tonne of details about my life, too. Probably the same as you… if you’re worried it means I should be worried too. And I don’t want to worry!
March 7, 2008 at 11:39 am
lfar
Also look at Dooce. She’s fine!
March 7, 2008 at 11:39 am
Each
deal,
And maybe I can buy you a drink on it.
someday.
March 7, 2008 at 11:39 am
Jack
11,000? It’s like your own Live Aid concert!
I’m totally inspired by how much of yourself you invest in your blog.
March 7, 2008 at 11:43 am
Hope
Just yay! Yay!
March 7, 2008 at 11:47 am
Nikki B
I just started reading as well, and was sad at the thought of you leaving! Your blog is great, and you’d be missed. Keep up the awesome writing!
March 7, 2008 at 11:48 am
The Lisa Show
Awesome. Glad you’re sticking it out! Any chance you could convince Clink to come back, too? I’m going through withdrawal.
March 7, 2008 at 11:51 am
caitlynintherye
If you left I think I’d break down in tears. Everyone else seems to be going on breaks lately, and I rely on this blog. You’re the shoe-ru, I need that.
Glad you’re staying, girl.
March 7, 2008 at 11:51 am
Laura
Ms. Molly, I am very glad you decided to stay. We love you!
March 7, 2008 at 11:53 am
puremotif
deal! don’t go! and I think it’s a good decision you’ve made to ease the worried minds, and especially compromise with future hubby. That is very important.
March 7, 2008 at 11:54 am
Stephanie
I am so glad that you’re staying. I plan to read you when I’m old and gray. YOU. Are an inspiration to me.
March 7, 2008 at 11:55 am
JP
I’m glad you’ve worked out what’s been weighing on you. I recently discovered your blog and love your writing. I recently lost rockstarmommy.com, I don’t think I could stand losing you, too! (That’s not supposed to sound weird.) And congrats on 11,000! I get excited for 20 hits a day.
March 7, 2008 at 11:57 am
AP
DEAL!!!!!!!!! Glad you’re back
And it’s ok to go back and edit a little. I’ve done it before.
yay yay yay….. happy dance time! you’re not leaving!
March 7, 2008 at 11:59 am
itsallabouthallie
Awesome!! You are the reason i blog, you know because you got Mike to do it! Thank You!! You Rock!!
March 7, 2008 at 12:06 pm
Dutchess of Kickball
That sounds like a totally fair and excellent plan.
March 7, 2008 at 12:09 pm
Britt
Glad you’re staying!

March 7, 2008 at 12:10 pm
notsojenny
glad you’re sticking around. lately it seems like all of the blogs i’ve been reading for a while are jumping ship. so happy that, at least for now, we still get to hear all about what’s going on with you : )
March 7, 2008 at 12:13 pm
sizzlesays
I’m glad a compromise could be made and that you’re still here.
March 7, 2008 at 12:14 pm
erin
glad you’re staying…we’d miss you!
March 7, 2008 at 12:39 pm
Chelle
March 7, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Gotham Girl
I am glad you are sticking around. I really enjoy reading your blog. Like you, I’ve had issues with family re: privacy, especially with my boyfriend. He is an actor in NY and doesn’t want me discussing anything about our personal lives…I have to be very careful and it is hard, especially when I have a lot to say and I feel as if I am walking on eggshells most of the time. It’s very hard. But I’m glad you’re going to keep blogging. You are a great writer and I love logging in everyday to see what you have to say.
March 7, 2008 at 12:55 pm
Gotham Girl
Somehow the link in my above comment went to the wrong blog…? I am from the current side link.
March 7, 2008 at 1:04 pm
notperfectdotcom
Deal.
Glad to have you back sooner.
March 7, 2008 at 1:22 pm
Angela
11,000?! Wow! My friend, I think you have arrived!
I’m glad you’ve decided to stick around, and now go have an awesome fun filled weekend!
March 7, 2008 at 1:41 pm
heidikins
Ummm… I get excited when I get over 100 hits a day… 11,000? You’re bloghood royalty! Give this woman a tiara!
And I’m glad you’re staying, love your writing.
xox
March 7, 2008 at 1:44 pm
Peter
You should have pretended that yesterday’s post was written by Barbie’s hacker.
March 7, 2008 at 2:10 pm
JenBun
DEAL! times a million…
I really wanted to write something along the lines of “I’ll never let go, Jack [Molly], I’ll never let go…”
But that would have just been silly.
March 7, 2008 at 2:34 pm
kate
I’m glad you’re not deleting!! I love reading. Your blog and Clink’s were the first blogs I ever started regularly reading… so feel good that you help me procrastinate from work every day!
Take care Molly and keep writing!
March 7, 2008 at 2:39 pm
skinny
glad you’ve found your balance thus far.
the balance shifts…. as time goes. having 10 readers versus 10,000 readers is a completely different ball game.
wish you will always be able to find the balance in changing waters.
welcome back!
March 7, 2008 at 3:06 pm
The Bug
I’m in! Glad you’re sticking around.
March 7, 2008 at 3:16 pm
Joann
glad you decided to stay because I just found you! LOL been reading through my G reader.
March 7, 2008 at 3:17 pm
Miriam D
Deal!!!
March 7, 2008 at 3:26 pm
B2G
Yay! I couldn’t handle all three of the people who started me blogging quitting all at once.
March 7, 2008 at 3:45 pm
Amber
Glad to see you back again: I know it can’t have been an easy time for you. Last year I had some huge concerns about security and privacy on my blog after one of the neighbours (or someone claiming to be a neighbour) found it and started to get nasty about it. Terry wanted us to move away because of it, and I was left feeling that it was all my fault, but at the same time, not wanting to really compromise what I was writing, or be forced to censor myself. It’s not easy finding the right balance, but for what it’s worth, I think you have it, and I was so pleased to see you pop up in my Bloglines account again after the last entry!
March 7, 2008 at 4:49 pm
katelin
Glad you’ve decided to stay, I love reading your blog. It’s always so open and honest. Love your writing.
March 7, 2008 at 5:22 pm
freeandflawed
I love that episode of Friends!
Glad you stuck around. I’m new here, but I’m enjoying your words already.
March 7, 2008 at 5:34 pm
Tina Vaziri
Glad you’re staying!
March 7, 2008 at 5:43 pm
Damsel in Digress
molly -
holy god, i am so, so relieved and happy to hear you’re not going anywhere! blogitively speaking, that is.
i’ve been mia. i hate being mia. i miss blogging. yup, that’s right. i’m addicted. lifeline is such an accurate term. i have been so out of the loop because i haven’t had a single second to do anything these days but work and sleep, but of course with a spare second at work i had to check your blog and i am so, so happy to hear that you decided to stay. i’m not sure what i would have done if i had finally come back to being able to blog more regularly and learned you weren’t going to be around anymore. i would have probably begun begging for you to change your mind and come back. seriously.
your parents and michael’s concerns are definitely based on something valid. it’s so easy for us to think we’re in our safe, niched out bubbles and have that security pierced by a single comment or person. just the other day i was telling my friends how positively scary the internets really are after i found out someone (um - a girl - who used to be/still is? OBSESSED with my boyfriend - he told her to please leave him and us alone a YEAR ago) who i had completely forgotten about had been stalking me via the webs. and she tried to pull some stuff. ugh. really. what is wrong with people.
anyway. so, so happy you’re still be here. you’re amazing. i love your blog. i really meant to email you all this but what - why not publically display all my fondness (and rambling ways) for you.
oh! and i never got to comment on how amazing you look! i loved that you posted a picture from further ago and one that was more current. you look beautiful in both but i know you’ve been visiting the gym dedicatingly and for all the hard work, it’s so awesome that you get to see such tangible results! i have to bug you for what you’ve been doing - some tips, what workouts you do, the food involved, the whole deal because you? have seriously motivated me =)
March 7, 2008 at 5:43 pm
Damsel in Digress
(whoa. um. that is one long message. can we decrease the font so it doesn’t take up so much … space?)
March 7, 2008 at 6:39 pm
christine
I almost didn’t check your blog today, and then I thought… “You know, I bet she just couldn’t stay away until Monday. Maybe I’ll check.”
So I clicked in, read, and then yelled, “HOORAY! MOLLY’S HERE TO STAY!” Then I realized what a complete dolt I must look like to the flies on the wall in my empty office, so I promptly sat down and started typing this comment.
And, um, 11,000?!? Holy blog hits, Batman! I’m lucky to get 20.
March 7, 2008 at 7:18 pm
Sandy
Haha.. I’m with christine up there
Also, very glad you’re staying!
March 7, 2008 at 8:04 pm
cdp
Hey sweets. I’m sorry I’ve not chatted at you earlier; I’m late in getting to bloggy land today. We’ve discussed this a lot though, and you know I’m right behind you in whatever decision you make. I mean, you know, as long as that decision still includes blogging.
Remember my whole anonymity issue back in the fall? (i know you do, because we had some pretty personal convos about it)(still sorry about that one thing, btw)(and heart you); but when all that went down, I went back and modified some archive stuff too.
It’s about compromise, but it’s also about your voice.
And I for one know my life wouldn’t be as bright if I didn’t get to hear it. So, thank you. I’m glad you’re staying.
xoxo
March 7, 2008 at 11:01 pm
enny
I follow you through the Reader, so don’t think I’ve commented before - but I’m so glad you’re stickin around!
March 8, 2008 at 11:20 am
alyndabear
Oh gosh, I totally missed the drama over the last few days - but Molly, I’m so glad to come online today and see that you are staying.
There are moments where I debate leaving it all behind and getting on with things - but to be honest, I’ve met so many fantastic people that I would feel lost without them.
I’m glad you’re blogging on, and continuing to share your little moments with us.
March 8, 2008 at 2:53 pm
Emily
*Yay!* I think you’ve made the right decision. I’ve had some family/friends bring up those same issues, but I think I keep a close eye on what I put up… & ultimately… I don’t blog for them…it’s for me. Anyhow, I think you do a good job of walking the line between total privacy & too revealing!
March 8, 2008 at 5:53 pm
Janice
Glad you’re here to stay Molly!
March 8, 2008 at 10:45 pm
carrie
i’m SO glad you’re staying. i LOVE your blog! (and, therefore, you by extension…but it seemed weird to be all “I LOVE YOU! PLEASE STAY FOREVER!” when, well, i don’t know you.
)
March 9, 2008 at 4:21 am
Mike
You made Michael proud, your family proud, you proud and, well, us, too!
March 9, 2008 at 3:43 pm
Butter
I’m glad you didn’t delete your blog- you have put so much work into it. I think it was a tough decision that you were faced with and I know your readers would have understood no matter what conclusion you came to. Even though I don’t know you, I enjoy reading your blog. Your courage and ability to reveal yourself to a bevy or strangers is inspiring. You are funny and smart and normal. It is great. Please don’t stop, we would miss you.
March 9, 2008 at 6:07 pm
fritz
YAY for you and for us Molly!
March 9, 2008 at 6:15 pm
Z
I’ve been away and missed the original story behind this (going back to read now…
but I just wanted to say I’m glad you’re staying! 
March 9, 2008 at 6:41 pm
crystall
I’m glad you’re not leaving; it’s weird how much drama a blog can cause. Glad it was just another issue that was easily resolved and that you’re staying. Think the Internet would be weird without These Little Moments.
March 9, 2008 at 8:33 pm
mainlyclearskies
I’m glad you’re staying! Now if only I could get you to work on Wearing and Wanting…
March 9, 2008 at 9:02 pm
princesstaj
Thank God you are staying!!!
March 10, 2008 at 12:00 am
heatherdc
So glad you are staying :), I love your blog!
March 10, 2008 at 12:53 am
libby
the whole revealing too much bit? i get it from the parentals who’ve put 2 and 2 together and know i blog. they don’t know i do it anonymously and i refuse to talk to them about it. but i still get the talks, the warnings. i think its a good compromise you’ve reached with your family/michael and your attachment to the blog
March 10, 2008 at 1:30 am
Tamblina D
Thank goodness you are staying! I love to blog! Love, love your blog! Keep up the great writing!
March 10, 2008 at 8:24 am
lisachelle
Hey Molly….
we are all so lucky you are staying.
Hooray!
March 10, 2008 at 8:50 am
Charl
Oh god, thank heavens you’re staying. Bad enough we really miss Clink and to have you go, too??! Depressing.
The balance will come. Don’t stress.
love
March 10, 2008 at 8:53 am
gibsondog
Excellent!
I had to make a few adjustments to some things I wrote as well. When I realized how powerful google was I freaked out. Ay.
I’m so happy you are here to stay! Pheewwww.
March 10, 2008 at 9:15 am
Barb (bp)
I am glad you are back!
March 10, 2008 at 10:00 am
DevilsHeaven
*PHEW*
and DEAL.
March 10, 2008 at 3:05 pm
Tilda
I’m so glad you stayed!
March 10, 2008 at 8:40 pm
Tina
Wow! Look how many people love you!
Look at all of the compliments that have come out of whatever hell you may have been going through these past few days. There really is a silver lining in every cloud.
Good luck with your new perspective on blogging. I know that I struggle with mine and it’s not even as remotely personal as yours. Keep up the good work.
March 11, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Annie
I am so glad you decided to stick around!
March 14, 2008 at 2:39 pm
JC
Someone typed in: Lisa Loebs Nipples and found my blog.
You’re right. There’s a lot to be careful about.
Every good writer has an editor.
Keep writing.