RELAX. I posted it because it was funny — not to start a war. Think what you want to think. Read if you want to read. Or not. I’m not posting these comments as a way to gather up “Team Molly” and boost my self-esteem and/or number of comments. I post them because it makes me feel better and if I don’t laugh at them, they’re going to get under my skin.
Talk to me when you start getting trashed by strangers on a daily basis. Someone said if I really want to be a writer, I have to get used to criticism. She’s right. It’s something you have to deal with. However, I have the right to respond in any way I see fit. And if posting the Best Of on MY blog makes me feel better, it’s what I’m going to do. And the way I handle criticism has no reflection on my writing ability.
In the whole time I’ve been blogging I have never ONCE trashed someone just because I didn’t agree with what they had to say. I’ve left comments saying just that — I don’t agree, but I’ve never called them vomit-inducing, a mindless bimbo, a vapid ninny, a slut, or any more of the multiple names I’ve been called.
I write about my life, my love of shoes, how blessed I am to be in love with someone so wonderful and all the other little moments in my life. Sappy? Yes. Sickingly sweet? Occasionally.
But it’s who I am and I own it. I’m not ashamed. I also don’t really understand what people are hating on me for. It’s not like I called you a whore and kicked your puppy.
This is my space and I invite you to visit, but from now on, the mean comments will be deleted. For my own sanity. Because you can only be called names in print so many times before it really starts to eat at you.
The end.



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May 8, 2008 at 2:32 pm
kristin
seriously, good for you!
it baffles me as to why bloggers want to trash each other.
isn’t the reason while we’re all on here is to talk about our own lives and find kindred spirits. to lift ourselves up rather than be brought down?
May 8, 2008 at 2:36 pm
littlespoon
Amen sister friend! I cannot believe how often people leave mean comments on YOUR blog. What’s the old adage? ‘if you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all?’ Yeah sounds about right
May 8, 2008 at 2:41 pm
Abbie
yup! That first paragraph is why I didn’t comment. I hate participating in Blog wars and “team mollys” as you called it. It’s so HS….gah!!!
I’m so GLAD you reposted for clarification.
MAD Respect!!
May 8, 2008 at 2:42 pm
poodlegoose
Some people have too much time on their hands. Buh.
What I came here to really say: Those “wanting” shoes. . . where are they’re from? They’re fabulous!
May 8, 2008 at 2:47 pm
Darci
Well said! Good for you, Molly! I’ll never understand the mean comments. Ever. Its fine to disagree with someone, but there is never an excuse for nastiness. I think you’re right not to indulge the nasty commenters, you vapid ninny
May 8, 2008 at 2:48 pm
Carrie
I rarely comment here but I just have to say…I enjoy your blog because you are unapologetically sappy, which is so unlike me. So I read it for a different perspective, and I appreciate what you put out there.
May 8, 2008 at 2:52 pm
lfar
Molly- I totally support you dealing with offensive and annoying comments in whatever way is easiest. People seem to love to pick on you- probs because you’re kind of a big deal, and you put a lot of yourself out there.
To be honest though, I thought that youtube video was super hilarious. And browsing around those girls blogs? They’re a funny funny funny duo. In their defense, they probably didn’t realize you’d find out that they linked to you like that. It’s easy to forget that behind every blog is a blogger, you know? Anyway, other than malicious linkage, they seem like hilarious girls.
May 8, 2008 at 3:02 pm
bebecrys
hahahahahaha vapid ninny, that one was a classic! you have me cracking up thinking about that one right there.
and everyone loves a little controversy. gets us through our vapid, vomit-inducing days.
May 8, 2008 at 3:03 pm
Missy
This person must have way too much time on their hands. I mean, honestly. Who cares enough to write something mean about someone they DONT EVEN REALLY KNOW? I love your blog, especially as being newly engaged myself! I love all your wedding post!
May 8, 2008 at 3:04 pm
bloggingbarbie
dude. since i have nothing to do all day, except, you know, look for jobs, i’m happy to custom make your very own bloggy barf bags to hand out. i’m thinking pink, with your monogram and blog name with an image of shoes.
thoughts?
love you.
the end.
May 8, 2008 at 3:34 pm
Jessica Lynn
you go. love you, love your blog. xo and i totally support the bloggy barf bags barbie suggested above.
May 8, 2008 at 3:41 pm
glamorous152
hahahaha…. It’s not like I called you a whore and kicked your puppy.
that line cracked me up.
and whoooo cares if you called someone out on their comment. it is your blog. do as you wish. people should really know not to leave dumbass mean comments anyways. there are blogs (not your obviously, cuz you rock!) i read that make me angry and want to say mean things, but i choose not to. ‘if you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all’ is the motto i follow.
and keep up with the wedding posts. i love reading them
and everything else!
booo to bad comments.
May 8, 2008 at 3:52 pm
JM
I love you, Molly. You are so amazingly talented in all the areas I’m not. And I LOVE reading about your wedding plans. So who cares what other people think. My opinion is the only one that matters, anyway. (ok, that was me trying to be funny… which shows why people don’t actually read my blog… hehe).
You have opened my eyes to the world of shoes. I never used to pay attention to other peoples’ shoes, but now on the subway I find myself checking out all the foot wear. Some of it is pretty hideous!
Heck, some of my shoes are pretty hideous. Now that I have a newfound awareness, I need to get some advice from the shoeru on some cute (and cheap–I’m a poor student) summery shoes I can buy that are very versatile and comfortabe, but sexy. That make my legs look nice. And make me look 5 kilos lighter. And add 10 years to my life. And take out the trash for me. And do my homework. I’ll be awaiting your advice!!!
May 8, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Viviane
Oooh sounds like someone can dish out but not take it. Hmmm… that makes it even more pathetic of that girl. What happened, did she comment on your blog?
May 8, 2008 at 4:08 pm
Melanie
I agree. It’s YOUR space. You are the one in charge. Of course we writers have to be willing accept criticism, but people leaving mean comments is just being, well, mean… nothing constructive about that. So delete as you see fit and know that I LOVE your blog and think you can write whatever the heck you want and if people don’t like it then they should leave.
May 8, 2008 at 4:22 pm
Mike
Rock. On.
And the kick your puppy line? Loved it.
May 8, 2008 at 4:41 pm
gibsondog
Tsk Tsk Tsk. Thats just annoying. Nothing more than a small irritation on the keyboard.
Well, Thank God you don’t let anyone’s negativity bring down your super sweetness! I wouldn’t know what to read if you weren’t around. FOR REAL!
BYW, I need major shoe help.
Ok. So here it is…
I have a 100% pure silk wedding dress, so it isn’t entirely pure white. My bridesmaid’s dresses are Jim Hejlm, Tea length. Color is apple cider green, accent ribbon is chocolate brown. I don’t want to wear white shoes and I don’t want shoes that are too crazy. I can’t seem to find the right shoe! I’m getting nervous. So, I need help. Should I just send you an email?
May 8, 2008 at 4:59 pm
Sandy
Good for you! I think you’re doing the right thing by calling the mean comments out- everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so why shouldn’t you? I think it’s funny more than anything else, and it’s good to see that you take the same approach.
May 8, 2008 at 5:02 pm
JenBun
TEEEEEEEEEAM MOLLY!!!
Please don’t call me a whore. Or kick my puppy!
That would suck.
May 8, 2008 at 5:12 pm
MG
BRAVA!!
May 8, 2008 at 5:54 pm
Kate
Good for you, Molly!
May 8, 2008 at 6:16 pm
heatherdc
Totallly agree. YOUR space, your blog, you should feel free to write about what YOU want to. I love this blog, and if you’re happy in your life and want to write about it, nobody should stop you!
May 8, 2008 at 7:05 pm
Z
I try not to get caught up in these things, but I agree- it’s your site, you should respond however and whenever you want to on it. And you certainly seem to be handling the criticism very well!
May 8, 2008 at 7:09 pm
mags
Molly – I love reading your blog. Your writing is wonderful, comes across very kind and you seem like a very nice person. And – your topic is yours – to do with what YOU want……keep it up! And thanks for sharing!
May 8, 2008 at 9:46 pm
legallyheidi
good for you! i have to delete the negative comments…otherwise? I take it wayyy too personally.
but you? are awesome and kudos to you for standing up for yourself
May 8, 2008 at 10:47 pm
Wickedly Scarlett
And it is for reasons like this that I totally understand why Dooce keeps her comments closed most of the time. I can’t understand why people feel the need to leave rude comments or publicly mock other bloggers. I mean, yes, of course it’s their prerogative, but that doesn’t make it any less cruel.
May 8, 2008 at 10:53 pm
Kass
I always delete nasty comments. I think it’s more of an attack on the person if you’re not willing to stoop to their stupidity. Of course that doesn’t mean I don’t want to respond lol.
May 8, 2008 at 11:05 pm
Emily
I think usually a reaction as harsh as “it made me want to vomit” can only be brought on by jealousy. I mean come on really? It made you want to vomit? DRAMA QUEEN! Oh I mean JEALOUS DRAMA QUEEN! Granted it is easy to be jealous of our dear Molly, great writer, great hair, cute dog, awesome fiance, and all this other person has is a really weak stomach. If reading blogs makes you want to vomit then get your ass off the internet and do something productive other than trashing people.
May 9, 2008 at 12:03 am
Dani
Well, in this case, I am going to take this whole thing to the next level and hopefully the stupid bitches out there will get the point.
Fuck you all for not having a life of your own and feeling the need to come to this blog and try to make her feel like shit. Criticism is one thing, but blunt hatred and cruelty is not necessary. This is a blog. A place where those who post should feel comfortable saying whatever the fuck they want. If you don’t like what she has to say, DON’T FUCKING READ THE BLOG and stop coming back to see what she has to say! Her word is not the end all be all. You don’t know her. In fact you don’t know shit about her, just something you may have read. So to sit there and pick one thing out and that suddenly becomes all that she is, is certainly naive on all your parts.
The thing is…you only wish you had the relationship she does, the friends she has, the loyal supporters of her blog, and her writing ability.
Once again, fuck you whores! I love you Molly!!!
May 9, 2008 at 12:05 am
Dani
P.S. Sorry for the cursingI
I find it’s more effective!
May 9, 2008 at 12:33 am
ablogofherown
I never understand the mean comments. Why, if you don’t like something, would you put effort into making someone else miserable? Someone you don’t even know? I don’t get it.
But I think you’re amazing and I loved the wedding by the numbers post!
May 9, 2008 at 2:33 am
alyndabear
Silly name callers. People have too much time on their hands!
May 9, 2008 at 8:58 am
denisa
i actually went back and checked out the offender’s blog. and discovered she/they are actually pretty young – practically still children, actually. and that their focus is “humor” and she actually thinks her comments are funny… you know how it is when you are that age and think you are the center of the universe and everything you do or say is important and hysterical….
take pity, they just have not grown up yet, that’s why all the juvenile stuff has coming your way….consider the source…..
May 9, 2008 at 9:54 am
Amber
I think you’re absolutely within your rights to call out these kind of commentors, Molly. And I hate this idea that seems to be perpetuated across the internet that if you write, and put your writing out there in the public domain, then you’re not allowed to complain about/make fun of any abuse you might attract, and must sit there like a little martyr thinking “Well, I DID ask for it by having a blog…”
Personally I’ve found that completely ignoring the bitchy comments seems to be the most effective way for me to deal with it, but being able to laugh at it, as you do, can be fun too
May 9, 2008 at 11:32 am
Sassafras
I heart you. The end.
May 10, 2008 at 3:16 pm
Ami @ Elizabeth Anne Designs
i just want to say that i only recently found your blog (in the last month) but i think you are amazing. you’re witty, funny, unabashedly honest, and just plain GREAT!
good for you for calling this person out.
May 11, 2008 at 6:20 pm
libby
the zero-tolerance policy is a great idea. and i agree with lfar that you wear your heart on the blog….and people are going to have opinions and react negatively…always. but for every nasty comment…you’ve got support. threefold.
xo
May 11, 2008 at 9:42 pm
Julie
I love your blog, and I like your rules. Keep it up!!
May 14, 2008 at 2:26 pm
Wendy
Some people are just mean! Blogging should be fun and personal!! Why do others think they have the right to step on another’s creative juices?! You are SO right- your blog… your rules. And, anyone who doesn’t want to be nice doesn’t have to read! It’s happened to me from a very unhappy bride to be who has some sort of problem with the world. Maybe there should be a blog for people like that to lash out at each other and leave us alone! Keep writing- I like your blog…and your shoes!!