Jennie says:
I hope one day you will address the plight of the taller woman. I’m 5′10”, and I read your site a lot, and and I am mostly just plagued with jealousy about all the fabulous shoes you wear! I really love the look of high heels and of course they do wonders for your legs and all that. I have spent most of my years between sophomore year of high school and now wishing I were four inches shorter so I could wear high heels every day.
I know it’s easy to say I should just suck it up and wear’em, but when I do I usually spend the night (or day) feeling self-conscious and huge, towering over my more petite friends, and fending off comments from well-meaning people who say “Oh my God, you’re so TALL!” It’s hard to feel attractive when you simultaneously feel decidedly un-dainty and rather giant-esque. It’s just easier to wear flats.
That said, my boyfriend and I are going to a wedding in about a month and I’m going to wear a pretty form-fitting black dress–think pencil skirt with a built-in tank top. I love the dress, but it just looks weird to wear it without heels. Any suggestions for flat shoes that wouldn’t look totally bizarre with a dress like this one:

I’m of average height so I dont’ fully understand the plight of the tall woman, however I do know that when I see a statuesque lady in high heels I think she rocks. Just saying.
That being said, the last thing I want shoes to do is make you feel uncomfortable, so I’ll try and tackle your question the best I can.
To be completely honest, I don’t think you should wear flat shoes with the dress. A form-fitting pencil skirt is meant to me worn with a little lift, otherwise your legs — yes, even long ones — can look squat. And that’s the last thing you want!
My suggestion would be a kitten heel. While still a “heel”, it tricks the eye into a seeing a longer leg-line, all while keeping you pretty close to the ground.
These great red ones are only two inches and would give your little black dress great character. Plus, you can always pair them with dress pants or jeans later at the office. They also come in black if you’re going more traditional.

Jaeger by Chinese Laundry, $88.
Or if you’re looking for a strappy look, these would do the trick.

Prissy by Naturalizer, $64.
And who doesn’t love a little gold?

Akin by Naturalizer, $75.
I think it would be a good idea to check out the dress shoes selection from comfort lines like Naturalizer, Sofft and Aerosoles. These brands have really upped their style factor in recent years and are catering towards a younger demographic, while still keeping their signature comfort. Their lower heels may be just what you’re looking for.



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May 21, 2008 at 12:08 pm
Melissa
“I’m of average height so I don’t fully understand the plight of the tall woman, however I do know that when I see a statuesque lady in high heels I think she rocks.” – I totally agree! I think it looks awesome when tall women rock the high heels.
I love those black strappy sandals!
May 21, 2008 at 12:10 pm
JenBun
I agree that a pencil skirt like that one would look a little off with flats. The only thing I could think of would be maybe some flat gladiator-style sandals, and then some fun Greek-inspired jewelry?
Great advice, as always, Molls! This is why you’re the Shoe-ru!
May 21, 2008 at 1:31 pm
dcchick
being 6′ tall without shoes on, I understand Jennie’s concerns.
However, Jennie, I just want to let you know… As a 6′ tall woman who consistently wears TALL heels…. you do get noticed. And it’s awesome!
You would be surprised at how liberating it feels. I have always been an introvert, so it used to make me very self-conscious when I walked in to palce and I hear someone whisper, “man, she’s tall”. And then I think… out of the 100s of people here, they noticed me!
The number of times someone has said something to me and followed it up with “that’s so awesome” is unimaginable.
I agree with Molly… start with a Kitten heel and you’d be surprised at how comfortable you could be.
TALL GIRLS POWER ON!
May 21, 2008 at 1:44 pm
L B
HEY JENNIE!
WEAR HEELS! I may not be as tall as you ( I’m 5′ 8″) but I LOVE heels. And yes I tower over my best friends who are all between 4′11″ and 5′4″ but heels are just sexier—and better looking shoes in general! So STAND OUT—so many people are jealous—so OWN your height. It took me a while to get over feeling like a giant but it’s all about how you carry yourself. If you are going to wear a formfitting dress like the one you described I guarantee NO ONE else thinks you look like a giant. More like ummmmm a MODEL!
Kitten heels will totally work but I say go all out
I would!
May 21, 2008 at 1:57 pm
DevilsHeaven
I agree, go all out.
Be sexy.
Wear strappy.
May 21, 2008 at 2:03 pm
elizabethews
Hey Shoeru – you know me and my shoes. The higher the better and I’m starting off 5′ 11″ barefoot. My advice to Jennie: OWN YOUR TALLNESS!! Stand up straight, shoulders back, head up and flaunt those 4″ heels! You’ll turn heads!
May 21, 2008 at 2:32 pm
Caz
I’m 5′9″ so not “that” tall (as in I’m tall but not “WOW she’s tall” as seems to happen with women over 5′10″) but I LOVE wearing heels. I used to freak out about it, but now I love being tall and standing over many people.
I guess I got used to it because my best friends in high school were 4′11″ and 5′3″ so I was always taller no matter what I wore.
May 21, 2008 at 3:02 pm
bing
I’m 5′10 and have the same issue with heels. My problem is that it’s often hard to find pants that are long enough to wear with tall heels. Plus my fiance is only 5′11, so I hate towering over him, especially in pictures. I’m a fan of 2-2.5 inch heels. I think they are the perfect height, and they don’t kill my feet.
It is nice to be able to look over the crowd and not blend in into it! Yay tall chicas!
May 21, 2008 at 5:45 pm
lfar
tall girls with heels are the best! find a 2 inch and be six feet tall! thats my dream come true.
May 21, 2008 at 6:24 pm
Maddy
I think I’m the tallest to comment so far – 6′4″ bare foot! So with a pair of heels I can hit 6′8″ (That’s 2m for those of us in the metric world!).
I agree with dcchick & everyone that wearing heels at this height is awesome – the comments; the turning heads in every room; the little kids unabashedly staring (I tell them I ate all my vegies) – but it can get exhausting and frustrating. Feeling a bit tired and frazzled? EVERYONE is still going to stare at you and probably ask you whether you play basketball, not realising it’s the 1000th time you’ve heard it today.
But don’t get upset about it.
And don’t do a Nicole (no heels, back in the Tom era).
If you can find pretty heels BIG enough for you, go for it!
May 21, 2008 at 10:36 pm
Cate
I love all the tall girls here sounding off! I’m 5′11″ sans heels… my husband is 5′10 without heels… my heels add several inches, his… not so much. He loves me in heels. I love me in heels. Your dress, Jennie, looks awesome and deserves fun heels, not flats. If you’re a tall girl, you’re a tall girl, and a few inches won’t change whether someone (everyone) notices you’re tall or not, so wear the fun shoes!!
May 22, 2008 at 11:59 am
Erin
I have to say… I am 5′10″, and I used to feel the same way… awkward and uncomfortable, and like a giant with my relatively short friends. And then… one day I guess I decided to be over it! I LOVE cute shoes, and I refuse to sacrifice the cuteness of my shoes due to the length of my legs.
Besides… when people say, “wow, you’re really tall!”, I can always blame a little of it on the shoes!