Those you following me on Twitter may have noticed a tweet today where I wrote about stumbling across a link to Craigslist, where I was being discussed in thread about blogs as having become a stereotypical smug pregnant woman.
At first I was taken aback. I was annoyed. I took it to Twitter. And then I sat back and thought about what might have given that person the idea that I had become smug.
Not long after announcing my pregnancy on the blog, I wrote a post where I mentioned it only took us six weeks to conceive. The exact words I wrote were “ummm…no. It only took six weeks.” I realize that the way it was written could have made me appear smug. Like I was gloating in my abilities as a fertile woman, when every day thousands of women are struggling with infertility. If anyone took my comment to mean as much, I apologize. What I meant to convey (badly, apparently) was surprise in the fact that it took such a short time.
If I haven’t conveyed it enough here, I feel honored and blessed each and every day to be carrying a healthy baby. I don’t take that for granted for a second.
Aside from that comment, I realize that 99% of my blog since December has been about being pregnant. However, that’s just how it’s going to be. Because, see, I write about my life. And my life right now is my pregnancy. I want to talk about it all the time and while my friends are great about wanting to hear about it, I realize not everyone in the world is. The beauty about blogs is that if you don’t want to read it, you don’t have to. That little ‘X’ at the top of your screen is a quick exit when your eyes start glazing over at another post about me being pregnant.
All that being said, I want to answer my own question posed in the title: Are Pregnant Women Smug?
My answer is yes.
To an extent.
Hear me out…before becoming pregnant, I would listen to pregnant and mommy friends with interest…for awhile. And after a little bit, I too would glaze over and start thinking about when I could flag down the waiter for my next mojito. While I thought the whole experience sounded cool, there was nothing I could really relate to for very long, and thus became uninterested.
Pregnant women talk about themselves a LOT. We become totally self-centered and have a hard time focusing on life outside the belly. I can only speak to those going through a low-risk pregnancy like myself, but I know that I talk about everything from baby kicks to aches and pains because I’ve never experienced anything like it. No other time in my life have I become more fascinated with my own body and even if people don’t care, I think they must absolutely want to hear about it because I think it’s so cool.
I’ve had “smug” moments come back and bite me in the ass. I thought I’d get through the morning sickness without throwing up. (Wrong). I thought I’d gain weight slowly. (This month? WRONG.) I thought a lot of things, because I had never been through it before.
I think the perception that pregnant women are smug (and I think it must be a perception — the author of the forum said I was the definition of a typical smug pregnant woman, so she must know of more than one), comes from the fact that we walk around in this bubble, rubbing our stomachs looking blissed out and talking about how wonderful pregnancy is, the beauty of creating life, blah, blah, blah.
So while I agree that pregnant women can become annoying, I think maybe “smug” is the wrong word. I think we become more cliché than smug. And maybe a bit boring to anyone who’s not in our shoes at the same time.
I am totally and completely in love with the little boy growing inside of me right now, and I won’t apologize for that. But I will understand if some of you only stop by every now and then so as not to be beat over the head with all baby, all the time.
You can call me a cliché, or even a little self-absorbed right now. But I don’t think I’m all that smug. I mean, how smug can I be while talking about smelly farts and expanding bust lines?
A reader pointed me towards this hilarious video, aptly titled “Pregnant Women are Smug”. It makes light of the whole thing and gave me a good laugh.
Now, back to writing about my pregnancy. Mwahaha.



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February 24, 2010 at 3:33 pm
Kathryn
So be it, if pregnant women are smug and are blissed out? I’d be the same way and sure I will be when I am pregnant. Sure, your words could have been interpreted as insulting by a newcomer, if she chose to see them that way. I’ve been reading your blog for over a year now and didn’t detect any hint of you gloating. Admittedly, I marveled at how quickly you were able to conceive. (Pass some of that my way, whatever it is!)
So, you go on with your bada$$ self and enjoy every single millisecond of your pregnancy!!
February 24, 2010 at 3:36 pm
CandiceBP
Well said. I, too, was fairly bored by pregnant women before becoming pregnant myself – and even more bored by people talking about their children. But now, I’m always interested since it’s the part of life I’m in myself. (Although, sometimes, I still find myself getting bored if they drone on too much.)
I think the one thing you missed is the uncontrollable joy pregnancy can bring. Not every woman experiences this, but I know I am. I am generally a kind of cynical, sarcastic, Eeyore type of gal… but since the second or so month of pregnancy, I’ve felt happy – like, weirdly happy. Happier than I’ve ever naturally felt – and there’s nothing I can do about it. I’ve been making a conscious effort not to appear smug about how great it’s all been, but instead, like you said, trying to explain how honored and blessed I feel that this is all going so well. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I just can’t help but want to share how wonderful I feel. It is what it is. As long as you’re conscious of it and trying not to make people uncomfortable, that’s the best you can do.
February 24, 2010 at 3:38 pm
Molly
Agreed. And I also failed to mention how un-smug I’m going to be when I’m getting pee in my face and cleaning up explosive diapers. I think parenting has to be one very UN-smug experience!
February 24, 2010 at 4:07 pm
CandiceBP
Hahaha… I’m dreading the day I wake up to a diaper explosion in the crib. :-/
February 24, 2010 at 3:36 pm
Karen
You know, there is even a song called ‘Pregnant Women are Smug’ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8 lol
I am pretty sure I will also be one of those ‘smug’ pregnant women (when/if I get pregnant), so more power to you.
February 24, 2010 at 3:44 pm
A.
I had no idea craigslist had a discussion forum. What a strange place to be posting about you in the first place!
It’s your blog and like you said, if someone isn’t interested in reading about your pregnancy, etc. then they can choose not to read but why bother trash talking anyone for sharing what is going on in their lives – just move on!
I’m not as far along as you since I just found out a few weeks ago but it’s interesting to see what you are going through since this is your first (mine too). It’s interesting and scary! I’m constantly on the internet thinking the worst and hope that subsides after I hear a heartbeat.
February 24, 2010 at 3:45 pm
Kate
I was so shocked to see your Twitter post about this. Some people have no class.
Truth be told, some days I’m not in the mood to read about pregnancy or baby stuff, so I don’t. But I check back for your next post to see what else is going on. That’s all anyone has to do—read and enjoy, or move along to the next blog. There’s no reason for anyone to say mean things about you in a public forum.
This is your place to talk about whatever is going on in your life. If you’re happy about your pregnancy and your healthy baby, by all means, talk about it. You get to be happy about that and it’s something you should share with your readers. We’re just as happy for you!
February 24, 2010 at 3:54 pm
Kim
I don’t think you’re smug at all. If you were all, “omg I got pregnant so fast and it’s amazing and I feel bad for all those ladies who can’t get pregnant and omg everything is sunshine and lollipops and ha ha to all of you out there, pregnancy is amazing and I am awesome!” — well, then yes. I would see a problem and would probably stop reading. Unless it was all sarcasm, in which case I might think it was too funny to quit.
Honestly though, your posts are truthful and heartfelt, and I thoroughly enjoy reading them. Check out some more Garfunkel and Oats videos (I particularly liked Sex with Ducks, in addition to Pregnant Women Are Smug) and enjoy that pregnancy while you can!
February 24, 2010 at 3:58 pm
notsojenny
enjoy your pregnancy! for whatever that means to you. if that means “generic smug pregnant woman” do it. own it. i’m all for it. how can one not be “smug” when you’re in the process of creating another human being? um, totally a big deal.
i’ll be all about being a smug pregnant woman when we’re ready… you shouldn’t have to apologize for it.
… and who knew Craigslist had blogs where people bitch about blogs?! i just use it to sell old furniture (okay, the husband’s old furniture)… who knew…
February 24, 2010 at 4:04 pm
A
I hope that, one day, I can be as blissed out and smug and pregnant as you are. Seriously. You make it sound damn amazing.
Congratulations to you. As boring or blissed out or cliché or self-absorbed as you may or may not be right now? You’re earning the right to be any/all of these. Screw the haters. Enjoy the ride.
February 24, 2010 at 4:05 pm
gibsondog
Gezz, I’m sorry. But, there is nothing wrong with smug pregnant women.
As I was a smug pregnant woman and now I’m a smug mommy.
Let me just share…
I use to roll my eyes when brides would gloat on and on about weddings while I was waiting for my love to ‘pop’ the question. “blah blah blah” However when I was engaged, all I talked about was wedding planning.
I ALSO, use to lose interest when pregnant ladies would “blah blah blah” about birthing plans or when mothers would talk about the development of their children “blah blah blah”.
My disinterest came from not understanding and not being at that point in my life.
Not every reader will understand where you are coming from, or will agree. Maybe he/she is at a different point in their life? Maybe he/she has different views. But, thats ok.
There is nothing wrong with wanting talk about the most beautiful living joy inside your body!!! The most amazing experiences have yet to come! I wouldn’t call that necessarily smug, I would call it enjoying and wanting the very best for your baby.
I can’t wait to hear about Baby Bjorns, sippy cups, bouncy chairs and all that FUN stuff that comes along with babies.
It doesn’t matter, write on. Be well.
February 24, 2010 at 4:23 pm
S.
I think that sweeping generalizations are much more about the person making the generalization than about the object of the generalization. For example? I think these girls who wrote this song are super bitchy and also probably jealous of pregnant women. Also, they’re clearly hipsters, and no one’s more smug than hipsters.
So I went to good ol’ m-w.com to find the exact definition of smug: highly self-satisfied. Listen, your body is producing a HUMAN BEING. I’m sure it’s an incredibly satisfying experience. So be satisfied! It’s incredible! My body isn’t producing a human being! I’m not even sure if it can!
Okay, I guess that’s the end of my rant. I think you’re wonderful.
February 24, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Monica
I used to read your blog daily, until you started talking e n d l e s s l y about your pregnancy. It got to the point where I found it soooooo incredibly annoying!! So imagine how funny I found it to stumble upon this post, today, after not having ready your blog for a few weeks!
That said – its your blog – you write whatever the hell you want, and if readers don’t like it, the don’t have to read it.
BUT…. I do have to add my 2 cents to what you wrote:
“Pregnant women talk about themselves a LOT. We become totally self-centered and have a hard time focusing on life outside the belly”
Not true! It all depends on the type of person you are… just because you are pregnant doesn’t mean you are going to start talking about yourself alot versus if you weren’t pregnant.
Instead of Smug I would call you obsessive. You were the same way when you were engaged. Its something for you to focus on, and to have the focus directed to you.
Not saying its bad, its just how it is…
Again, if people like me find you talking about your pregnancy annoying (however, didn’t find all your talk about your wedding annoying), they just don’t have to tune in!
Your blog – Your words
February 24, 2010 at 4:32 pm
Molly
Hmmm ok. Maybe just the pregnant women I’ve known talk about it a lot? That’s just been my experience.
The way I feel about the blog is this — I never marketed it as a single topic venue. It’s not a photography blog, a food blog, etc. It’s a life blog. So if my life is currently centered on being pregnant, it only makes sense that I talk about it. (Which yes, sounds like it’s a single topic at the moment, but you get my drift.)
But I like the way you’ve gone about it for the most part. You come back when you want to, and don’t read when I bug you. That’s fine.
February 26, 2010 at 11:58 am
Sara
I love your blog. I’m not pregnant and generally make faces at all things child-related (unless they do something really, really cute), but that’s just me. It doesn’t mean I’m not excited for other people and their experiences with babies, parenting, marriage, etc. Just because I may not be ready to have a baby doesn’t mean I don’t want to hear about pregnancy. I find pregnancy to be kind of trippy honestly.
I don’t find your blog boring or uninteresting because you post about your pregnancy. I mean, pregnancy is a huge deal. You’re about to be a parent! You have to take care of this tiny little ball of joy for the rest of your life! That’s HUGE. Of course you’re going to talk about it a lot. You are officially in charge of another human being’s well-being. That’s really cool. I think to classify you as “obsessive” is a little harsh honestly.
I may not read all your posts about bras and farting uncontrollably, but I do enjoy the letters you write and the pictures you post. I just skim over the stuff that I can’t relate to 100%. It’s kind of nice to read this stuff because a few of my friends recently found out they are pregnant and I can tell them all the wonderful “side effects” of pregnancy… Like gas!
“Keep on keepin’ on,” that’s my two cents!
February 24, 2010 at 5:01 pm
lawschoolwife
I don’t think you are smug at all. The sad truth is that there are women out there who for whatever reason aren’t able to get pregnant, or at least not nearly as quickly as they would hope. Please don’t apologize that your body worked as well as could be hoped for, and that you are enjoying this process, being both awed and uncomfortable intermittently. And I’m sorry you had to find Internet gossip about you. I know what that feels like, and it’s awful! You have a lovely blog!
February 24, 2010 at 5:03 pm
Laura
I love this post.
I for one am NOT pregnant and enjoy every post of this blog. I enjoy seeing through someone else’s eyes their experiences and you are particularly honest about them. I love that you post flattering and UN-flattering things.
I know many pregnant people and they talk endlessly about it. As do most engaged women. If you’re a talker, you’re going to talk about what is going on with you. It is natural.
More power to you.
February 24, 2010 at 5:06 pm
Brenda
People who have discussions on CRAIGSLIST are below you. Pay them no attention. It sounds like they don’t even know what smug means.
February 24, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Amy Jo
First of all, I had no idea that craigslist had a discussion forum. Secondly, screw the haters…if they are not interested in what you have to say they should MOVE ON….
Personally, I’m not pregnant but I enjoy reading your posts about pregnancy. It’s nice to have someone tell the good and ugly parts of being pregnant. Not many people are brave enough to discuss such a topic, but knowing from your experience what a woman’s body goes through during pregnancy is useful knowledge for my future.
Keep it real because that’s what this blog is about!!!
February 24, 2010 at 5:45 pm
Tara
Actually, I love following your blog. I was thisclose to unfollowing a little while ago (I was thisclose to implementing a personal policy where I only followed people I knew. But then I realized that was dumb and instead just stopped following the people whose blogs I didn’t actually read anymore.) And I’m glad I didn’t stop following you. I find your posts interesting and lighthearted and deep and genuine. It’s also delightful, because you’re several steps in front of me in your journey through life. It’s nice hearing the things you have to say “calling back” to me (to all of us back here). I’m getting married in 5 months (*gasp!* to the day!
) and baby for us will probably be a few years after that (God willing). I started following your blog about halfway through your engagement. It’s been neat seeing your journey. And looking ahead, vicariously, to see mine. Don’t stop.
p.s., I get the sense that shoes aren’t really on your radar at present. After all, high heels plus pregnant probably equals *very* uncomfortable, but here’s what I’m thinking for shoes for my wedding (my colour is purple and us gals are all thinking of wearing the same shoes for the day).
These are what I’m thinking for the ceremony, pictures and meal:
http://www.zappos.com/gabriella-rocha-ginger-brown-patent (in purple) or
http://www.zappos.com/mia-romance-purple-nubuck
And these are what I’m thinking for the dance (my fiance and I both swing dance):
http://www.dancestore.com/Aris-Allen-White-1930s-Mesh-Oxford/productinfo/2829-WH/
Anyway, I pray for many blessings on you and your family (little baby especially).
February 24, 2010 at 5:51 pm
Kasia Fink
Smug? That couldn’t be further from the truth when it comes to you and your writings about baby. Your posts always seem full of quiet wonder to me. But people who already feel like they’re on the ‘outside’ will always find ways to support their outsider feelings. Similarly, people who are unhappy will resent others who are happy, and like Candice BP mentioned above, sometimes the side effect of pregnancy is uncontrollable joy. I count myself as part of that joyful group of people and I’m not going to apologize for it. It’s beautiful and wonderful.
If more people put their energy into feeling glad for others who are happy rather than into destructive exercises such as bad-mouthy, Craigslist forums, oh what a world it would be…!
February 24, 2010 at 7:49 pm
Danielle Meyer
Molly please know that I TRUELY enjoy reading about every single aspect of your pregnancy. Even though I don’t know you personally, I have been reading your blog for over 2 years and I feel like your friend and I want to hear what you want to talk about! I actually felt sad that you didn’t tell us all that you were trying to get pregnant, but was SO happy for you when you did tell us, because we all heard about how badly you wanted to be. If some people aren’t happy about what you have to say, then they don’t have to read your blog. Believe me, a large majority of us will still check you blog regularly to read all about your little boy! I can’t wait to hear all about his first days and what you guys decide to name him!
February 24, 2010 at 8:20 pm
Anastasia
Ok…so let me get this straight….people out there are actually starting discussions about you on Craigslist???? Any person who is participating in discussions on Craigslist about an online blogger is clearly a L-O-S-E-R, and has no right to be calling ANYONE smug.
I looked up “smug” for the exact definition and found: “contentedly confident of one’s ability, superiority, or correctness; complacent.”
Doesn’t sound like such a bad adjective to me….hell, I consider myself smug, and I’m not even pregnant. I say rock the smug – because I guess all of the non-smug people are unsure of their ability and feel inferior. Back to my original point – they are LOSERS!
February 24, 2010 at 9:30 pm
Molly
I don’t know you, but I stumbled upon your blog and follow it because in general I enjoy your posts and because it’s interesting to read about someone else’s experience with pregnancy and motherhood. I have a 13 month old daughter and I am pregnant with my second baby, a boy, due in early July. But I am ten years older than you….
I find the smug comment mean and unncessary, but I would agree, I suppose with the self-absorption (having been there myself). However, with that same experience I will say that I think it is very important not to lose your own identity outside of being pregnant or a mother, that it IS important to talk and think about other things. This is partially about keeping a sense of self, as well as about the role you will show your children- of your being multifaceted, interested in the world at large- that I think it is essential to model. It is also a shock in the first year of parenthood how much you lose your “self”- a loss/gain that is both beautiful and quite hard and shocking. If the blog is about pregnancy, that’s wonderful, but please don’t lose the rest of who you are, even if you chose not to represent it on the blog.
I also have wanted to pipe up about pregnancy v. motherhood. I highly recommend reading Anne Lamott’s Operating Instructions. Pregnancy is a miracle, but I think people focus too much on it rather than what happens after. So many women I know went into the delivery room without being prepared for the “real” part, the after part, the life with baby part. You are not having a delivery, you are having a baby (which isn’t to say that delivery isn’t magical, but you must go into it prepared for ANYTHING to happen, and the unexpected often does, therefore don’t get too attached to how it MUST be for you).
And motherhood- it is joyful, yes, but it is difficult, shocking, relentless, exhausting, unexpected, wonderful, and awful. It challenges who you are, what you want from life, what you thought you wanted from life. I think when people try to say “it’s going to change your life” its because its the best they can do to summarize the ineffable truth of that statement. It is a joy; it is a weight. Pee/poop is the tip of the iceberg. The first year, I think, is the most difficult. To be very, very honest, the one impression I’ve gotten from your blog is a degree of naivete- again, something I understand, because I think you will too once you fully understand the reality of motherhood.
February 24, 2010 at 9:30 pm
Kez
What a great post. And for the record, you’ve never come across as smug to me!
I love your pregnancy related posts! And I’ve never been pregnant!
You sound excited and like you realise your blessings all the time and you’re so in awe of what is happening. I would not call that smug. I would be more annoyed and worried about someone who tried so hard to play it cool that they came across as cold or in doubt about their decisions.
I hope that when I am pregnant I feel all the things you have felt.
x
February 24, 2010 at 9:45 pm
Jackie
What a useless way for people to spend their time. I don’t think you are being smug, but even if you were…who cares?! You are pregnant and excited and journaling your experience and sharing a lot of great information and those are all good things. I guess people always want something to bitch about.
February 24, 2010 at 11:14 pm
pink imp
How weird. Discussing you on Craigslist! Fine way to spend time! UGH!! I like this post alot, Molly!!
February 25, 2010 at 6:16 am
Jenna
I’m glad you decided to post on this topic, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with being blissfully content with where your life is headed. Isn’t that when people get smug? Because they think that the way they are doing things is absolutely right for them?
The world would be better if we could all walk around calling ourselves smug I think.
Lately I’m a fan of redefining words people throw out in a derogatory fashion and turning them into something good. I get called judgmental alot, which I’ve come to realize just means I am opinionated i.e. make decisions on a large variety of topics and write about them (although I know they mean it in a rude way, as in you are judgmental and hate other people or something like that, but I don’t have to put value into what they think). You are smug because having a baby is the perfect thing for you, and I’m absolutely thrilled you feel that way (because I feel it too!)
February 25, 2010 at 10:00 am
Lori Haskell
Well, I have never been pregnant, but your stories do not come across as smug to me, nor do they bore me, I enjoy reading them, and hearing the stories from friends who are pregnant. So, I say, screw them. They are just jealous of your happiness.
February 25, 2010 at 10:31 am
Bluebelle
I love that video, it’s so funny. I’m not pregnant and am not planning to be for a couple of years but I do love reading about your experiences, and those of other bloggers. I hadn’t gotten any smug vibes from you at all, just blissful happiness! It’s like any major change or event in your life – why shouldn’t you blog about it. When people get engaged, married, buy a house, go on holiday – everyone blogs about those things and no one accuses them of being smug. So keep telling us about the baby news, I for one, love reading it!
February 25, 2010 at 10:46 am
Blondie
Molly~ You are not smug. I, too, have been TTC and it has taken a bit longer than I expected but everyday I read your blog and it makes me so excited about what the future holds. I see you as a very happy mommy to be~ the way I want to be in the near future! I love reading about your everyday thoughts and experiences knowing that eventually Ill be there as well. I feel like Im learning a little bit more about being pregnant every day through you. I get excited for you! And sort of live vicariously through you until eventually I get there myself. Anyone who is writing nasty comments like that should just not read your blog ~ because there is some other issue there. So be it, jealousy, or what have you. Just know – there are people out there (sans pregnancy) that do love what you are writing every day. keep it up Molly!
February 25, 2010 at 10:55 am
Jen
Hi Molly, I’m due just a few weeks after you with our first as well. I am shocked to hear that people devoted a whole discussion thread on Craigslist about you and your blog. That is insane and I think it says a lot more about them than about you. I can imagine though that that was pretty upsetting. I can’t agree totally, though, that all pregnant women talk about themselves a lot, and have difficulty focusing on life outside the belly. I have friends who have children already who have been a great source of information to me, that is definitely true, but speaking for myself, I can say that there are many other things going on in my life that I’m still interested in and passionate about; the pregnancy hasn’t eclipsed those things for me. I say this with the greatest of respect and this is your blog entirely, there for you to write about whatever you feel. Your readers can make the choice about whether they want to read a pregnancy-centric post, and if not, they can just click away. I hope this doesn’t come across as disrespectful in any way, just a different perspective from someone who is going through the same thing as you are. I still do enjoy reading your blog and wish you all the best.
February 25, 2010 at 11:56 am
Sass
I didn’t get much sleep last night (silly baby having NEEDS and all) and my eyes are killing me so while I can easily get rilled up I just can’t find any energy to articulate it. Summary: you are a gorgeous pregnant woman feeling exactly like most pregnant women feel. It is such a surreal experience that it is hard not to concentrate on it. I’m sorry you had to find yourself the topic of discussion. There seems to be a lot of that going on…where is Spring?
February 25, 2010 at 2:30 pm
Cristin
I have to say I have been reading your blog for a few years now, and have never commented, but for this post – I feel compelled to leave a message. Whoever started the Craigslist thread is obviously a complete twit. You are a fabulously entertaining writer, and shouldn’t stop talking about what you want to just becuase someone flamed you.
It is a compliment that so many people read your blog. That says more than some nasty commentor. I pretty much stopped blogging after someone left some nasty comments about a sarcastic post I made on my own blog. It is infuriating, and makes one feel like they have to defend themselves.
You are doing wonderfully here, and don’t change a thing. It is rare for someone to be so genuine in a public forum.
February 25, 2010 at 2:32 pm
CJ
Molly, I’m about 7 weeks ahead of you and I, too, am having a baby boy. I’m so excited and fascinated and in love with this baby and its neat to hear of how others deal with many of the same things that pregnancy brings.
I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years now and although somedays the posts are quite boring, it is a blog about life and I am intrigued. I enjoy reading everything and if I don’t, then its not a big deal, I click away. BUT guess what, sometimes life is boring and sometimes people are smug and arrogant and obsessive, etc. And that’s okay because that is what makes the world turn. I wouldn’t get to caught up in what others have to say. Yeah, it would be nice if they would just click away and go about their business, but we all know that there are cruel and unhappy people out there that feel the need to put in their two cents to make others just as miserable. And that is okay too.
Regarding your comment about getting pregnant in only 6 weeks. When I read that, I didn’t think for one minute that you were being smug or insensitive. You see, I tried so long for a baby and went through lots and lots of infertility treatments. It was a long and hard road. And in the beginning, had I read that comment, I probably would have held some resentment and probably stopped reading your blog. Because I was unhappy. But I realized that there were bigger plans in store and I got over all that resentment. And as a matter of fact, when I read your comment, I actually praised God that you were able to conceive so quickly. After traveling down the road of infertility, I can honestly tell you that I would never wish that on anyone. And while sometimes it doesn’t seem fair or make a lot of sense, I know that there is always a bigger plan. So NO, I did not find you smug or arrogant or insensitive. I don’t even really know you but I was really happy that you could experience this WONDERFUL thing called pregnancy. While it may make you a bit obsessive or SMUG, it is so worth it—-so rub your belly and write your letters to baby boy and talk endlessly about it. And when someone tries to get you down, remember their opinion doesn’t matter.
Sorry for making this so long!
CJ
February 25, 2010 at 2:40 pm
DevilsHeaven
People are annoying. Period.
That video? CRACKED ME THE HELL UP!!!!
SOME women are like that, I personally work with 2 who are all, “GET THIS THING OUTTA ME.” Total non-smug, and TOTALLY in love with the babies, just not the experience. Everyone is different. Don’t take it to heart Sweet Miss Molly.
February 27, 2010 at 12:33 am
zoeymop
craigslist? discussing other people’s blogs on craigslist? blog-bashing on craigslist? are you serious?
someone really needs to get a life…..
February 27, 2010 at 4:35 am
SB
I think this whole fuss is silly! It’s your blog and you can say what you want! It is pretty cute how much time you spend talking about your pregnancy, but I have fun reading and comparing experiences. I think the way women react to their pregnancy depends on the way they process any major life changes.
Right now I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my first and although I’ve loved my baby since the moment I found out I was pregnant I’m also a really private person. In fact, even though I was really excited about my pregnancy I didn’t talk about it much until a few weeks ago-and now it’s all I can talk about! In contrast I have a friend who’s 32wks preg and she’s been talking about her pregnancy non stop since she was 6 days along! You remind me of my friend and I think it’s great that there are people like you who enjoy sharing what’s going on in their lives. I hope you continue to enjoy your pregnancy and share your experiences!
May 17, 2010 at 6:59 pm
AC
I am 20 weeks pregnant and completely in the bubble. I can see how it would look smug from the outside, but it feels sooooo goood from the inside! And yes, I know I am boring the hell out of people but so what! It is a miracle and we all got here because some woman carried us and, hopefully, felt very smug and joyful doing so.