I’ve been meaning to sit down and write this post for a while, but when I was asked on Formspring about being a stay-at-home mom and maintaining a budget, I thought it was about time.
Living on one income means living on a budget. It’s not about how much we have, it’s about how far we can stretch it. How much we can do with what comes in every month in terms of our lives. There are of course non-negotiable expenses. Bills that have to be paid each month. But after that, we need to do our best with what’s left: food, home, savings.
I’ll admit, we haven’t been doing as well as we could be. We’re fine, but we’re not saving like we should be. And this is the time in our lives to do it! We recently sat down and decided, enough — it was time to get serious about where our money was going. We sat down and looked at what was coming in and what was going out, or more specifically, where it was going out to.
And the number one biggest expense? Food.
Between running to the store whenever, lunches on the go and multiple — multiple – trips to Starbucks and the like, we were spending far more than necessary and it was a wake up call.
So I hatched a plan: in order to get serious about our food budget, I was going to be honest about it here. On the blog. On the internet. I’m setting a monthly limit and am going to hold myself accountable on these pages. Both for me, and also for anyone else looking to do the same for their budget.
Here’s my plan for spending:
* Each month I will set a $400 food budget. I know this may sound high to some (or low to others), but based on what we were spending, I think this is an attainable goal. My long-term goal is to spend less than $400, but I feel this is a good start for us. This $400 includes groceries and home supplies/toiletries.
* Coffee purchases will be made from an account which requires us to use 10 debits a month to maintain a high interest rate return. We have to make 10 purchases, so they might as well be small. That allows us for on average two a week, making it more of a treat and less of a “need”.
*Each week I will go through the grocery circulars that come in the mail and plan my shopping list around them. I will make meal plans. I will use coupons when available and in addition, shop at local farmers’ markets.
Here’s my plan for staying accountable/helping others hoping to do the same for their budget:
* Once a week, I will share a recipe I made while cooking on a budget. I will do this while continuing to eat fresh produce and meat, organic whenever possible. (We don’t eat a lot of processed food now, and I see no reason to start just to save money. I believe you CAN eat healthy and deliciously on a budget!)
* I will break down that recipe dollar for dollar, sharing with you the total dollar amount per serving.
* At the end of the month, I will share my total spending for the month; both with my successes and my stumbles. I will share tips I have learned and invite others to do the same. If you would like to join me on this journey, you can share your successes and stumbles at the end of the month too.
I firmly believe it’s not about doing without, it’s about doing MORE with what you HAVE. Whatever your budget, there are ways to make it stretch and that’s a good thing, no matter how many zeros are in your paycheck.
I’m excited about this journey and I hope you’ll find it interesting/helpful as well!



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April 13, 2011 at 7:19 am
Lauren Bush
This is so exciting! I can’t wait to read this journey! I have been meaning to do this at my house, but haven’t made the time. You may have just inspired me!
Best of luck and I can’t wait to see where this goes!
April 13, 2011 at 7:40 am
Navigating the Mothership
Have you heard of mint.com? I have found it useful for putting all my expenses into categories so that I can see where we are spending w/o having to use complex software or calculate it all in an excel spreadsheet myself. Looking forward to more posts like these & the recipes.
And I’m not going to even say what my grocery budget is…it’s ridic!
April 13, 2011 at 7:40 am
missmitten
This just tickles me! I am in couponing/customer loyalty for a big chain in Texas – and I am currently doing some stuff around digital coupons. If you have a smartphone, definitely download a shopping app, like grocery iq, or see who your big chain offers as a tool. Also, during my discovery phase of what’s out there, I stumbled upon a great site http://www.e-mealz.com/ started by – you guessed it! – Moms for not only frugal, but tailored shopping. Downside is you need to pay a small fee (they need to make money) but it’s one of the best tools I’ve seen out there. Good luck Molly!
April 13, 2011 at 9:14 am
A Super Girl
Great post! And I don’t think $400 is terribly high, but maybe I, too, have a warped sense! My budget is about $200, and I’m just buying for one. Then again, I don’t do so well with coupon-clipping, so I’ll be interested to see how you tackle that!
April 13, 2011 at 9:24 am
Erin
My grocery budget is also off the charts. I just wrote a few posts about meal planning that you might find helpful! Just click on the “meal planning” label on the right side of my blog.
Good luck, I’m really looking forward to hearing how it goes for you!
April 13, 2011 at 9:31 am
Keri
I just registered at mint.com as well. Looking forward to see where we’re spending the majority of our money.
Molly, I think this is a great idea and I can’t wait to see how it unfolds!
April 13, 2011 at 9:44 am
Bridget
Sounds great! I always plan my shopping around the circulars and use coupons. Good luck and I look forward to the recipes.
April 13, 2011 at 9:45 am
Britt
Can’t wait to follow along. We cut our food spending to $400/month about 4 months ago. We’ve been a little slack lately, so watching you will hopefully get my butt back on track!
April 13, 2011 at 10:04 am
Courtney
Oooooohy! So pumped you are doing this!!! SUCH a great feature to inspire others while being accountable for your own goals.
With a husband who has 8 weeks left on his job before their company closes down (and who knows how long it will take to find a new job), I am really interested in real people saving money, while cooking inexpensive yet not overly-processed meals.
I can get behind coupons, but I cannot get behind buying anything and everything bc there is a coupon. I would not eat half that stuff normally, so why if there is a coupon?
EXCITED!!!
April 13, 2011 at 10:22 am
fittingbackin
I love this post! Can’t wait for your budget friendly recipes and tips – best of luck this month!! Can’t wait to see how the $400/month works out – VERY exciting!!
April 13, 2011 at 10:28 am
Emily
Can’t wait to follow along! We’re trying to do the same thing!
To help with saving, you might also want to check out SmartyPig.com – an online savings account. We’ve set up direct deposits to different goals every month and now saving is easy. We just treat saving like another bill.
April 13, 2011 at 11:14 am
Molly P
We are on one income too (family of four) and oh god, my husband with his metabolism of fire could consume $400 of groceries on his own in a month.
So, last year we planted a tiny garden. It did well and helped cut the produce costs. This year we planted a big one!
April 13, 2011 at 11:59 am
nwgirl
Awesome! I can’t wait to hear how it goes. I always wish I had more time to do meal planning. Someday when I have a family, I’m sure it will become more of a priority.
April 13, 2011 at 2:05 pm
Laura
Can’t wait to see your budget posts. I’m hoping to get pregnant in the next 6-12 months and likely will be a stay at home parent after that, so we want to try “living” on one income in the next few months…food is definitely a huge expenditure for us!
April 13, 2011 at 3:12 pm
Kate
Thank you for this! I think $400 sounds like a sensible goal- a mix between frugal and realistic
We have a pretty good joint income, but I’m still petrified at the possibility of potentially losing mine in the future, and I’m interested in all tips!
April 13, 2011 at 4:56 pm
jackie
So, even though I’m not a stay-at-home mom, I am 80% of our current income, because my husband went back to school full time for his MBA and is only working ~10-15 hours/week…so we’re in a similar income spot (he earned more than me to start with, too!).
When we talked about going back to school, we talked about how the money part would work. We took out loans “in case of emergency” and are trying to pay for the rest (including living!) out of savings. AAAND we just bought a house.
That being said, a couple of tips (keeping in mind we’re a mid-to-late 20s couple with a dog living in a house that we’d love to do some work on but needs no immediate help…but no baby/child. I’d imagine you’ll have a lot more diaper/medical/clothing expenses).
-we signed up for mint.com, pulled in all our info and set budgets. The tool isn’t perfect, but it is helpful to get an email reminder that I’m over budget on clothes (again).
-I swore off coffee stops. I compensated myself by buying two new commuter mugs and getting very expensive coffee to make at home. I set the coffee maker the night before so I’m never rushing out the door with no caffeine.
- My husband stopped buying gadets. As long as he’s in school, his 5 year old blackberry will suffice. He’s got a list a mile long of stuff he’ll buy when he graduates, but hopefully he’ll forget by then
- our weekends (when he’s not working) are spent doing cheap/free things, which have recently involved a lot of yard work.
- we cut out cable completely. Our TV links with my computer, so we watch hulu and netflix in our limited spare time, as well as the stuff on the basic channels.
- “fun money”: we put ourselves on really, really strict budgets, but allocated each of us a certain dollar amount per month for “fun” things- for me, this is buying (another) toy for the dog or taking the dog to daycare when I get “mommy guilt,” getting a manicure, or buying shoes if i’ve used up our monthly clothing budget. For my husband, it’s eating out when it makes his life easier or buying a new life jacket. I’m not talking big bucks– more like $80-100/month. But that way, neither of us have to feel like we can’t do ANYTHING anymore.
-We don’t eat out anymore. If I don’t have time to cook dinner, I always try and have something moderately healthy as a back-up frozen thing (typically Trader Joe’s stuff).
- no gym memberships. It’s warm out, and we rarely use them anyway.
- craigslist. Before we buy ANYTHING, we check craigslist. We’ve gotten an unbelieveable amount of stuff.
- gardening! This is my pet project for the spring. Might not work for a mommy on the go, but it keeps me busy on the weekends and I’m hoping to get some yummy free veggies in the next few months!
Good luck!! It gets easier once you go a month without something you thought was indispensable (starbucks, going out to bars, cable TV, whatever your vice…) is a total non-issue.
April 13, 2011 at 5:47 pm
Melissa
I have started the same journey on all fronts. Determining what we need and what we can do without. Food is definitely an area that needs work in my family. I am starting to make up my own recipes based on what is on sale that week and learning to stock my pantry with sale items. I have been making weekly menus for a long time now and this really helps with self control at the grocery store. I hope to explore clipping coupons and I am excited to see what you come up with as well!
April 13, 2011 at 10:48 pm
Kim
Way to go, Molly! I’m excited to see how this turns out!
April 13, 2011 at 10:53 pm
heather
You should check out budgetbytes.blogspot.com. There are lots of great recipes! I swear I’m not affiliated with the site at all, I just find it to be a really great source for yummy (and budget-friendly) ideas! Good luck!
April 14, 2011 at 8:30 am
Valerie
Um, so I think I spend over $400/month on food and I’m only feeding myself! I will definitely be following your adventures in budgeting and taking notes!
April 14, 2011 at 8:45 am
Barbara
What a great post!! I am trying to get us on a budget too! (family of 3) and it is amazing how our money just flies out the window… It will be great to follow your progress and know that we can do it!!
April 14, 2011 at 8:48 pm
Jessica
Good for you! It sounds like you’ve laid down a practical plan, while maintaining your commitment to eating quality foods so that you’re still enjoying your meals. If you’re looking for recipes, I have a friend who is a chef and writes a food blog where she creates to-die-for recipes on a budget. It’s called BrokeAss Gourmet (www.brokeassgourmet.com), and like you will be doing, she also breaks down the cost of each of her recipes. Thanks for sharing, and I wish you well on your new endeavor.
April 18, 2011 at 12:14 am
mel
I think we got spoiled on dual incomes and now we are on a little over 1 income b/c I am in school full time. We have a mint account and it lets you look over your biggest expenses backwards for the last year and we had a scary one…. we spent over $2000 at one restaurant alone! mind you its normally over a 100 every time we go there for 2, but OMG – I didn’t realize we went that much.
This was my first weekend clipping coupons, I am so excited!
April 18, 2011 at 11:37 am
LKP
I call these “Recession Recipes” on my blog, but it’s basically how my mom cooked while I was a kid! She was a single parent raising 2 girls with not a lot of time or money, but we always ate delicious, healthy food. You can do it–and you’ll be surprised, once you get going, how easy and scrumptious it is!!
April 21, 2011 at 3:57 am
endyluo2026
I am also very excited……
April 21, 2011 at 9:54 am
Anna Sawin
Love it, mama!
I’ve never been into coupons because I felt (wrongly, perhaps) that the only coupons out there were ones for junky, processed foods that I would never buy, anyway. But I recently read a post by Jessica at Balancing Everything dot com (I think my comment will disappear if I post the link), but it was a recent post) and she doesn’t buy crap and still does it. Her secret is to go to the companies online, particularly their FB pages, and choose coupons only for the products she uses. ORganic milk and yogurt, etc.
I like that idea! Plus, I try hard not to buy vegetables in the grocery store, but instead shop at our farmer’s market all year–indoor and out–a great backbone to our meals!