You want the truth? I’m not doing well this week.
I’m completely overwhelmed at work. I’m second guessing myself and my place here and I hate that.
My stress level is through the roof. I’m swamped with projects, I owe an overly understanding person a story that I keep forgetting to send her and my house needs to be cleaned.
I dreamt last night that they brought out my wedding dress for my fitting and it was the wrong one. Some horrible, one-shoulder monstrosity covered in sequins that they insisted was mine and refused to send back for my actual dress.
My actual fear is I will stand in the dressing room on Saturday weeping while the saleswoman informs me that the dress is too small.
And I’m tired of eating salad.
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January 31, 2008 at 11:06 am
Damsel in Digress
hey molly –
i’m so sorry to hear you’re having a rough week. it’s a tired saying, but it does seem to pour once it gets raining. i’m sure you already have ways that you calm down when you’re this stressed – perhaps listening to a certain song or making lists or just taking deep breaths. but may i suggest silent screaming? it’s a technique my friend timmy and i picked up when we were writing our honors theses senior year in college. we’d sit among all our books on our 6th all nighter in a row and decide it was time to let out a silent scream (a real scream would have been stellar but probably gotten us arrested by the librarians or something) – it’s basically where you throw your entire force into it.
and hey. if you are somewhere you scream out loud? i highly recommend that too! i genuinely hope you start feeling better or that you’re able to take care of enough things to feel like you’re swimming above water again.
January 31, 2008 at 11:13 am
littlespoon
Oh no! The wedding nightmares have started already! Push the bad thoughts away!
January 31, 2008 at 11:14 am
Alison
aww…sounds like my January. At least friday is almost here! I hope you feel better 🙂
January 31, 2008 at 11:16 am
Michelle and the City
cheer up buttercup. you’re going to be trying on your WEDDING DRESS this weekend! you’re getting MARRIED!! how exciting is that? 😀
January 31, 2008 at 11:27 am
bunny
Rough weeks are always terrible to get through, but it’s almost Friday; more importantly, you’re gorgeous and I’m sure that you’ll be ecstatic when that dress slips on your svelte self. You, weeping? No. Weeping with joy and excitement? I totally see that happening in about 48 hours. Cheer up! 🙂
January 31, 2008 at 11:27 am
bing
Oh no! I’m sorry you’re having such a bad week but I’m sure it’ll get better soon. The weekend is almost here and then you can relax for a few days. Never second guess yourself! I know it’s hard to start a new job with new people and be in charge of new clients. Just remember, if they didn’t think you were awesome at what you do, they wouldn’t have hired you!
And, I had my first wedding nightmare last night too – how weird is that? I dreamt it was my actual wedding day and my hair and make-up was taking hours to get done. The ceremony was about to start and I wasn’t ready and couldn’t find my veil or my dress. Then I woke up. Maybe there’s something in the air! 🙂
January 31, 2008 at 11:35 am
Clink
I have wedding (and cheating, etc) nightmares all the time and they suck. But none of them – not one – has ever turned out to be true.
You will be fine. And I will be there in a week. And there will be martinis and food.
January 31, 2008 at 11:47 am
sizzlesays
there is only so much salad a person can endure. it sounds like you are very stressed. you need some protein! 🙂
i bet the wedding dress fitting will go well. maybe your fears are getting the best of you?
January 31, 2008 at 11:54 am
elizabethews
First ~ wedding nightmares = 100% normal
2nd ~ new job stress = 100% normal
3rd ~ NO WAY is the dress NOT going to fit you. I saw you the other night and you look fab. It’s definitely going to be too big or fit you like it’s a part of you. I’m sure of it.
4th ~ screw the salad and eat a brownie. One will make you feel better and won’t do a damn thing to you bangin’ figure. (like how I used bangin’?….I’m so ghetto)
5th & final ~ NO ONE’s house is as bad as mine. I’ll send you a picture so you feel better.
love & hugs to you!!
January 31, 2008 at 11:57 am
Nic
Deeeeeeep breaths. This will all pass and it will all work out.
January 31, 2008 at 11:58 am
pie
awww I’m sorry you are having such a craptacular week. That is the worst 😦 your dress will be beautiful and fit like a glove. No need for expensive alterations!
I have wedding nightmares all the time, it will be ok. I promise.
January 31, 2008 at 11:59 am
dreamgrrl
agreed on the wedding nightmares. i have them ALL. THE. TIME. seriously, i got married in whole foods on saturday, and i had to wear a tuxedo jacket to help the caterers do their job correctly. Don’t you worry at all. And i guarantee the dress is going to look amazing! all the other things will fall into place, and even when i feel my worst at work, I still know I’m doing a good job, so try not to dwell on that. it’ll be okay 🙂
January 31, 2008 at 12:13 pm
L B
baby girl, baby girl, baby girl….i wish i could hug you and absorb some of the stress. you are fabulous at what you do and you need to remember that. at work, at being a woman, at being a writer and at being a fabulous future mrs. michael, you will get it all done plus some, WE ALL KNOW THAT 🙂 in the end do what makes you feel good and have a damn brownie for me please!!!
January 31, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Kateastrophe
What is with this week??? I am pretty much having the same week. Ugh. January needs to be over.
January 31, 2008 at 12:21 pm
DevilsHeaven
We tore apart our family room and all the sheet rock is piled in the middle of the room. Talk about needing to clean.
I hear ya on the salad. I still haven’t brought myself to start the Bridal Diet, one day of salad and I’m done.
Stress sucks. I find shopping for shoes usually helps! 😉
January 31, 2008 at 12:37 pm
menderz
OMG.. I HATED the wedding nightmares!!!
January 31, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Laura
When Clink comes to visit you, make me a deal… NO SALAD! 🙂
Take some time off and enjoy the wonders of your long lost twin. 🙂
I am really sorry you’re having a rough week. My positive thoughts are heading east to you! 🙂 Hug!
January 31, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Lisa
I work in the middle of Toronto’s wedding dress store zone (Seriously, like 10 shops within a 5 minute walk. No joke). And let me tell you: that one shouldered sequined number? It exists.
January 31, 2008 at 12:56 pm
qu33nbee
Aww, sweetie. I am so sorry you’re having such a bad time. I am kinda sorta there with you. I just spilled my apple juice because my cat was on top of the TV. And when I went to sit down, I sat on my glasses, and my other cat seems hell-bent on getting outside, and won’t stop meowing, but I’m trying to keep them quiet so that B doesn’t wake up. It’s nothing like what you’re going through, but I can just tell that it’s going to be “that kind of day”.
I hope your’s gets better. At least it’s almost over?
January 31, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Katie
I had the wedding nightmares too…don’t worry, everything will turn out okay! 🙂
January 31, 2008 at 1:07 pm
erin
sorry to hear that molly! i know the feelings about being so crazed at the office (and second guessing yourself). but it sounds like you are making it through (and i’m sure you’re doing a terrific job). and, oh yeah, it’s just work. that’s what i keep telling myself.
hope the wedding nightmares go away – and i’m sure the dress fitting will be fine. i wouldn’t want you to have to OD on salad. blah.
January 31, 2008 at 1:24 pm
JenBun
As soon as you’re done trying on The Dress? Go get some chips and guacamole. Or chocolate. Or whatever works, and will make you feel better, and make up for all that salad! Hey, we all need a little happy sometimes! =)
January 31, 2008 at 1:26 pm
DG
Breathe… in and out. The good news here is that it will get better – the stress will subside, the work will get less overwhelming, the DRESS WILL FIT and salads can take a breather with you still eating kinda healthy. XOXO
January 31, 2008 at 1:43 pm
Banana
Being new at a job SUCKS! I hate the first month or two while you’re still learning everything and feel completely inadequate because you don’t know everything.
I used to have wedding nightmares at least once a week. Mine involved being late and having a million things to do last minute before the wedding and rushing around. I still had them after the wedding for a few months.
January 31, 2008 at 1:59 pm
La
I love you and it seems like you might need a boatload of hugs today, so here they are! Also, some smooches! xoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoox
Hang in there 🙂
January 31, 2008 at 2:00 pm
heidikins
Ah honey, this will get better! Saturday will go splendidly and I heard somewhere that bridal shops are not even allowed to have sequins in their stores… so that one-shouldered sequin monstrosity is absolutely not going to happen.
Keep your chin up girly!
xox
January 31, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Tina Vaziri
Remember to breath, everything will smooth out and the rough waters will pass. And remember to eat well, not getting enough food will make the stress so much worse.
January 31, 2008 at 3:19 pm
caitlynintherye
I was all set to tackle this one, but everyone else seems to have better answers than I have. My advice? Switch it up from salads. Don’t gorge on cookies, but that crazy of dieting will make anyone unhappy. Lean Cuisine meals are amazing, by the way. And the night before? Take some of those anti-water retaining pills. Drink coffee the day before (ADH inhibitor).
And remember that you’re absolutely stunning, and the wedding dress will look perfect.
January 31, 2008 at 3:26 pm
your mom
come home beebee.
we will go to the dress fitting, it’s going to be just fine, you know it is.
maybe shop a little afterwards with aunt suzy, maybe go out for sushi later, go home and be cozy with blankets and snacks and just a little chocolate for the evening……. it’s going to all be OK..
🙂
January 31, 2008 at 3:49 pm
Rachel
It has been said at length, but I firmly believe no one can have too much love and support thrown their way. So hang in there hun. You can get through all the planning and stress and you will end up with a wonderful wedding…and more than likely you will do it with amazing grace and confidence. In the mean time, remember that whenever you need reassurance you need but to ask and people will come out of the woodwork to help you and cheer you up.
January 31, 2008 at 4:27 pm
gibsondog
You read my mind. So, today is No Worry Day for me. Try it! It works!
If you list everything you worry about and then tell yourself NOT to worry … then you realize that you don’t have any control over things you are worrying about and … you did all you could so far …. therefore all there is left to do is just smile. Because it is all going to work out.
RAMBLE. Sorry.
Oh, and your mom sounds so wonderful! She painted a beautiful picture of home.
January 31, 2008 at 4:29 pm
renae68
Okay, Molly. Before my wedding, I had – get this – SHOE nightmares. I dreamt over and over that the church was packed and Mark was waiting and I couldn’t find my shoes! So, in some versions, I would finally walk down the aisle barefoot, but the church would be empty because everyone would have gotten tired of waiting!
Same dream – different versions – over and over and over.
That in itself is a nightmare.
But guess what? On the big day, my beautiful shoes were right there, where they were supposed to be, and everything went off without a hitch.
The wedding took. Here it is, seventeen years later, and we are still loving each other.
Deep breath, dear. It will be okay. 😉
http://www.renaebrumbaugh.com
January 31, 2008 at 5:06 pm
bluesunday
(((((huuuuuugs))))) I think we’re all having one of “those” weeks. Hang in, chin up, and um? I heart your mom! Sushi, blankets, chocolate??? She rocks!
January 31, 2008 at 7:26 pm
Chelle
Guess what tomorrow is girl? It’s I-Don’t-Care-Friday! So sending you the e-card tomorrow to remind you that it just doesn’t matter when it’s Friday… >Yeah!<
And for those of you that don’t know about I-Don’t-Care-Fridays, check it out at http://www.hoopsandyoyo.com under super-cool e-cards.
* cue Chelle doin’ a crazy dance and Hoops & YoYo vocals *
“We Don’t Care, We Don’t Care, We Don’t Care cuz it’s FRIDAY!”
January 31, 2008 at 8:02 pm
poodlegoose
What everyone else said… you’re going to look at wedding dresses! And it’s almost the end of the week and the end of the month.
I’m sorry that this week has been so awful. I didn’t have such a good one either, so I’m having a little ice cream after my salad. Maybe you should too 😉
January 31, 2008 at 8:04 pm
Julie
Hang in there – a lot of the crap is going to lighten up with the season. You are tough enough, and brave enough, and you can do this! Really and for true.
January 31, 2008 at 8:09 pm
Kenzie
Ahh! I hope your weekend is better than your week. It’s been a long week for me too. Just hang in there!
January 31, 2008 at 8:44 pm
katelin
At least it’s almost Friday. that’s a good thing right?
January 31, 2008 at 8:50 pm
Chelsea Talks Smack
Amen- but breathe, I’m sure the dress with be perfect. I’m tired of eating salads too, all I’ve wanted all week is a doughnut, but then I was pised when my jeans were super tight this morning. arg.
February 1, 2008 at 5:44 am
cardiogirl
Ugh, wedding anxiety nightmares are. The. Worst.
You have until October, right? Good luck. You might want to start a dream journal, just for grins. It might provide interesting reading and it might disable your sub-conscience for a while.
Good luck!
February 1, 2008 at 10:49 am
Jess
I have wedding nightmares too. Although they have been getting slowly less horrible as things keep getting done. In the beginning it was the wedding and nothing was ready and all the guests just walked out and we didn’t even end up getting married. Now they’ve progressed to the point where the wedding is horrible and everyone’s upset, especially me, but at least we wind up married at the end. That’s something.
Anyway, I hope your stress lifts soon. Enjoy the weekend!