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From Lynda Lang on this post:
“Going to a male strip show while you are engaged to be married is a profoundly immoral act. You have a very light-hearted attitude about the way you probably hurt your fiance’s feelings. He was probably concealing how he truly felt, which is a characteristically male response to a pride and ego wounding. Like most contemporary American women you have very little concern for men’s feelings while thinking that your every thought and feeling is sacred. Your fiance should dump you immediately and find a decent woman who respects men, rather than a witch like you. Wake up, Michael!”
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April 20, 2008 at 2:07 pm
alyndabear
Well, that’s certainly a delayed response, isn’t it?
As an Aussie, I for one, am proud that you saw the show! Not something I’ve seen before, but still, woohoo!
Shame on you, you contemporary American woman, you.
April 20, 2008 at 2:09 pm
Jack
Gosh, how do you put up with these sorts of comments? Although I do find it kind of funny what this kind of self-righteousness says about the comment’s author.
Oh, what if your fiance was a stripper? Would it be ok then? Hrm. Quandry.
April 20, 2008 at 2:09 pm
JenBun
Whoa! Lynda Lang has some interesting (read: umm, crazy?) opinions about your relationship and the influence of strip clubs.
I’m glad you chose to share this– I needed something to laugh at! 😀
(P.S. I’m also glad that I just know you are laughing about this too and just shaking it off, instead of taking it to heart, because it is FUNNY, not something worth worrying about!!!)
April 20, 2008 at 2:19 pm
shana leigh
yikes!
crazy bloggers.
April 20, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Laurie
Hate the haters!
Thanks for the good laugh.
April 20, 2008 at 2:25 pm
Sara
People are absolutely ridiculous. I love that she comments on your light-hearted attitude – those meant as an insult in regards to Michael’s feelings, being light-hearted is a great characteristic she should try to adopt.
April 20, 2008 at 2:44 pm
Megan
Oh, whoa. So ridiculous, and such self-righteousness! Maybe Lynda’s heart could do with some lightening, no? This definitely made me chuckle. 🙂
April 20, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Ashley
Hahahaha are you serious?! Oh lynda….such a comedian! I didn’t know people like that still existed.
April 20, 2008 at 2:58 pm
The Casual Perfectionist
Oh no! How funny. The ironic part about all this is if she’s angry enough to comment to you, why is she wasting her time on a site written by such a person as you! 😉 Doesn’t she have more wholesome ways to spend her time? 😉 If she thinks you are so immoral, but yet she’s spending her time reading your site, well, what does that say about her? The last time I checked, blasting innocent people via their comment fields wasn’t a very nice thing to do… Thanks for sharing!
April 20, 2008 at 3:09 pm
Essentially Me
BAAAHAHAHAHHAHHAHHAHAHA!
Sorry I don’t know how else to respond to that comment.
That last line? Wow. Just wow.
April 20, 2008 at 3:13 pm
sizzle
It’s so ludicrous it’s laughable!
April 20, 2008 at 5:03 pm
Peter
We were all thinking it.
I, for one, am glad that Lynda had the stones to say it.
April 20, 2008 at 5:08 pm
gibsondog
Gezzzzz Louise.
That chic needs to chillllll-it-the-way-out-dude.
People really say things like that to you? Why? I don’t get where the anger comes from? How awful!
April 20, 2008 at 6:42 pm
Dani
Lynda needs to have some sex right away, that would probably help. Considering it isn’t the 1940’s, I am sure Michael doesn’t give a fuck. Sorry for the language, but seriously. As an almost psychologist, get a clue, hop into this century, and seek some ocunseling ASAP!
April 20, 2008 at 7:19 pm
lfar
Though in my opinion Lynda is an idiot, I’ll at least give her some credit for using her real name. (“real’? well, at least not anonymous)
April 20, 2008 at 7:27 pm
legallyheidi
people are so redonkulous. seriously…they should mind their own business. perhaps but then again…that would be the easy thing to do.
April 20, 2008 at 7:39 pm
crystall
Lynda Lang sounds like a stripper name.
April 20, 2008 at 7:43 pm
tiedtogetherwithasmile
wow, just wow.
April 20, 2008 at 7:44 pm
pseudostoops
spectacular. truly.
April 20, 2008 at 7:58 pm
QueenBee
Oh wow. That’s Grade-A stuff right there. I’m so glad Ms. Lang is so perfect in her own life that she feels obligated to share advice with the rest of us on how to live. 🙂
April 20, 2008 at 8:06 pm
Megan
Obviously, she hasn’t been reading your blog for very long. Otherwise, she would KNOW how much you care about Michael.
Secondly, going to a male strip club is not “immoral.” I would probably never go, but I don’t think it wrong of other women to go. You have the right to have fun.
April 20, 2008 at 10:54 pm
libby
the snap judgments people make baffle me to no end.
April 21, 2008 at 3:29 am
Clueless Cat
um, whaaa…??? lol
(I would love to watch a male strip show! haha)
April 21, 2008 at 7:21 am
Are You Willing to Change
Wow! That is hilarious! Just don’t even comment if you feel like that!
April 21, 2008 at 7:44 am
Stacey
I don’t know what’s funnier…the comment in the post or the comment by Dani, “Lynda needs to have some sex right away.”
HAHAHAHAHAHA.
April 21, 2008 at 8:59 am
Valerie
Um, yeah. And guys NEVER have strippers at their Bachelor Parties.
April 21, 2008 at 9:52 am
notperfectdotcom
I guess you, who’ve been with Michael for over 6 years have discovered a great source to help you on his thoughts and feelings.
te-he…Bless her heart.
April 21, 2008 at 10:07 am
heatherdc
haha wooooow. there are no words….
April 21, 2008 at 10:13 am
MG
I think Lynda needs to get herself to a strip club stat. Either that or get laid…something is really throwing this woman off.
April 21, 2008 at 10:31 am
onebigholiday
She is probably bitter because she is single and you are getting married.
April 21, 2008 at 10:39 am
pinkhighheels
Seriously?? Wow! You bet your butt that I would go and see Thunder from Down Under if I had the chance!! =)
April 21, 2008 at 10:49 am
bloggingbarbie
bolded, even.
i’m sorry i burst out laughing when i read this.
for the record, i’m happy to have this matted and framed for you and M to laugh at…you witch you. 😉
love you lady. xo.
April 21, 2008 at 10:50 am
mags
Funny……On a different note – I just read this on Slate and thought of you. Very funny – about a mother-in-laws choice of dress…..
http://www.slate.com/id/2189248?nav=wp
April 21, 2008 at 11:08 am
Megan
I think she must be from the compound in my lovely little state of Texas 🙂 I can just see her now wearing a Little House on the Prarie dress. She is rediculous.
April 21, 2008 at 11:24 am
poodlegoose
Wow… harsh. You’re not only immoral, you’re profoundly immoral, and that’s just the worst.
I do like how she infers a lot from this post about Michael’s feelings. He obviously reads your blog, so if he felt differently than you described, wouldn’t he tell you?
April 21, 2008 at 11:33 am
Katie
How redonkulous!!!
April 21, 2008 at 12:12 pm
Kari
wow. that takes cahones. some friends of ours said the same thing about me while she was dealing with post partum. people need to wake up.
April 21, 2008 at 12:44 pm
Froggy
Wow, that was… um… interesting.
I bet Lynda vacuums in high heels and pearls…
April 21, 2008 at 1:49 pm
Anna
Oh my!
April 21, 2008 at 4:35 pm
Dani
and another thing…you already know…I LOVED THUNDER FROM DOWN UNDER. I was hooting and hollering like a banchee!!! 🙂
April 21, 2008 at 5:24 pm
cdp
Seriously, Michael. WAKE UP. Is it possible that all this time you’ve neglected to notice the fact that you have a brilliant fiance who not only has a mind of her own, but has a sense of humor too? And knows how to have a good time to boot? I really find it hard to believe you’ve been oblivious to this dire situation for the last four years. I mean, honestly Michael. God love you for putting up with such the unfortunate hand you’ve been dealt. It’s not just any man who could withstand a relationship with a woman who behaves as though she lives in the 21st century and not as though she doesn’t have the gumption, smarts, or desire to speak her mind, occasionally go out for a good time with her friends, and (God forbid) even dabble in the fine art of autonomous thinking every now and then.
As for you, Molly; I would say it really is quite readily apparent to those of us who read you on a regular basis (and are, ps, actually FRIENDS with you) that you have little to no regard for Michael’s feelings. I mean, the fact that you are madly in love with him aside, it seems to me that you’ve gotten a little carried away with this whole notion of “fun.” For shame, Molly. For shame. I would say your recent foray into the realm of nude male dancing speaks volumes about your character. Nevermind the fact that you have been in an entirely monogamous, committed relationship for nearly half of a decade, regularly take credit here for the mistakes you know you make in your relationship, write about how much respect you have for Michael both personally and professionally, and are ever aware of the effect your writing may or may not have on his feelings. You clearly need to take a step back and thinking about the morality of the way you’re conducting yourself.
And Lynda? Bravo to you. Bravo for bringing the blatant wrongness of this entire situation to our collective attention. It seems to me that a brief note of thanks is in order.
I feel as though I should note at the outset here that your generalization of the contemporary American woman is really quite compelling. Because, you know, until you clarified that stereotype, I wasn’t really sure exactly who the contemporary American woman is. Personally, I am in a committed, long-term relationship; I have two kids and take a very active role in the lives of my partner’s children; I am a full-time student near completion of ten years of post-secondary education with a remarkably successful academic record; I am preparing to practice law in a small Southern town where the entire landscape of the profession could be characterized as on old boy’s club at best; I am the daughter of a very sick mother who requires a great deal of care and attention from me on a daily basis; I am a single mother raising two young boys all on my own without the assistance of my children’s father in either a financial or a co-parenting capacity; and most people who have worked with me will tell you I am ambitious and driven with a very strong work ethic. So. Given that I myself wear a number of different hats, and I have contemporary American women friends, some of whom stay home with their children, some of whom have brilliant medical, legal, and other professional careers, some of whom go to school, some of whom have a wonderful devotion to any number of wonderful charitable causes, some of whom are ridiculously talented in fine arts; it really helped me a lot to be able to take ALL of those women and peg them nicely into the same category. Because, clearly, the contemporary American woman is quite obviously a one-dimensional creature best characterized by whether or not she has on one single occasion in her life seen a man dancing without his pants on.
The contemporary American woman struggles to define her role in her family and in society as a whole. We are the daughters of women who burned their bras and made their way into the workforce and have given us the opportunity to forge careers of our own; and we are trying to do that in the midst of a cultural climate that is now urging us to focus more of our attention on family values. Unlike the American woman of the past, we not only have children to raise and home and hearth to keep, but we also go to work every day, pay the bills, cut the grass, and every now and then we might even dare to pick up something heavy all by ourselves. Given the innate burden of such an undeniably complicated life, it really is no surprise that the contemporary American woman would find herself so lost and and hopelessly devoid of morals. It’s really just enough to make any girl dizzy if you stop and think about the confusion of it all.
I can definitely see exactly why you are so adamant in separating yourself from such a group. Someone with such a penchant for making sweeping generalizations about women and their values and accepting responsibility for judging us all, and harshly; is obviously in a class by themselves. I would say your comment serves to remind all of us contemporary American women exactly what we should strive every day to not be like.
The trade-off, though; of being all of the things that we are, is in knowing that not only are we able to maintain healthy, open, and honest relationships with the men in our lives (men, by the way, for whom we have a great amount of respect); and ultimately in the confidence that comes with knowing that those men have a damn good reason to respect US. And in knowing that they count themselves lucky to stand in the glow of the greatness that is the contemporary American woman.
So thank you, Lynda, for serving as a reminder to the rest of us of how very far we’ve come. May we all fear the day the American woman reverts to the mentality of individuals such as yourself. And may we all think so highly of ourselves as to sit in harsh moral judgment of people we don’t know. Obviously the world is well served by such ignorant, uneducated, close-minded judgment.
And much as I would just love to continue analyzing that gloriously thoughtful and well-informed comment you’ve left for my darling friend Molly; I unfortunately have work to do. You know, before I pick up my children from school, clean my house, and then make dinner for my boyfriend. Oh, the plight of women like me and Molly. Our lives truly are a towering altar to immorality and disrespect. If only we could all be so right as you, Lynda. Just think what the world would be like then.
I can only imagine.
April 21, 2008 at 5:41 pm
katelin
wow, well i think everyone has pretty much already said what i would have said. but seriously, wow. what a ridiculous comment.
April 21, 2008 at 10:46 pm
Mike
You know, I was just coming here to say exactly what cdp said. 😉
April 21, 2008 at 11:36 pm
anonymous
While I don’t agree with Lynda’s comment, I do think it was rude to make her comment into a post. Just recently you asked for readers to post comments on your blog and that is exactly what she did, even if it did not agree with your views. You clearly love Michael and would do nothing to hurt him, so write a post defending yourself instead of letting everyone else just bash her views I think this discourages readers from expressing their opinions, which was what I thought the comments were for.
April 22, 2008 at 12:17 am
Meag
I agree w/ anonymous. You are begging. BEGGING. for comments and views. (Seriously, getting a bit pathetic and needy). Good for Lynda for speaking her mind.
April 22, 2008 at 8:17 am
Princesstaj
Wow. WOW!!! Anonymous (figures) and Meag need to lighten up. The woman called her a “Witch” for going to a male strip club. Big. Deal. Lynda needs to hop off her self-righteous high horse and pull her head out of her uptight a*s. And you two need to realize when you post a comment on someone’s site, you no longer own that comment and the author can do what she pleases with it.
Why, oh why, do you people continue to read, and post comments if you’re so vehemently against what Molly writes, and how she lives?
Seriously. Geesh.
Rock on with your bad self Molly.
April 22, 2008 at 9:01 am
Michelle & the City
because apparently once we commit to one man we must prompty put on our habits, full body coverings, and never speak to anyone of that gender EVER AGAIN
April 22, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Jo
I love the “anonymous” comments! If they are sooooooooooooooo opinionated they why be anonymous? Do they not know about IPs and the sort. Like wtf?! It’s not like you are going to hunt them down…you are just going to reply OR not!
idiots!
Have fun at the strip club! Wish I was there!
April 23, 2008 at 8:53 am
KG
This comment is a little late, but nevertheless…this chick is crazy!does she think that guys don’t enjoy going to strip clubs, too? If nothing else, it makes you really glad to see your man when you get home, and I bet he’s even happier to see you – if you get my drift 😉 All in good fun; have a blast!